T/J on trust - less than a month from our 3rd antiversary, with a W who is a model WS, I still don't trust her.
I've adopted our MC's position: I'm aware that my W is out of her A and working successfully to change herself into a great partner (which is what I thought she was all along), but I still fear she'll hurt me. (In fact, she does hurt me from time to time.)
Bottom line: our MC seems to think not trusting my W is fine, so I don't sweat it. I'm convinced trust will come.
If you continue to heal and to rebuild your relationship with your H, who stopped hurting you so badly just a year ago, congratulate yourself for not trusting him.