Thanks for listening,
It is normal. They don't call it a roller coaster for nothing.
Take time for the boys, but also take time for yourself. My therapist reminds me to not push those feelings away. Do actually acknowledge and feel them.
They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen
It's like we weren't enough to fill his desires.
FT hid his real self from me for over 25 yrs, yes, they can and do live a lie in a marriage to us. It comes back to the fact, they made the choice to cheat, you didn't give him permission to be in an open marriage.
The good news you can work on what caused you not see and why you accepted a broken person in your life.
The first days/weeks/months after separation are almost unbearable because a huge void is now in your life and the rejection was horrible for me.
You may not have been the best wife 100% of the time but that isn't why he cheated. Only he can dig and find out his whys of why he allowed himself to seek validation from someone else. Many WSes can't face their truths so they blame us.
Hugs and keep busy and try new or old things forgotten in your life.
[This message edited by gma56 at 4:41 PM, December 6th (Friday)]
I do know that we will have good days and bad days, and eventually the good will outweigh the bad. You will get through this, but you have to allow yourself time to grieve and process everything. Like I said, I'm almost a month out, and I am improving. We just have to allow ourselves time to get over this and life will go on. Promise!
caelitus mihi vires
"My strength is from heaven"
These are not rational people we are dealing with here...like gma said, these folks are BROKEN (something I actually SCREAMED at WH yesterday...oops ).
It sucks...I just have to believe that we're all going to better off somehow in the end.