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User Topic: Can you guys send me some extra strength today?
Lostandpregnant
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Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm having a lot of anxiety, and not doing so well.
I'm going to call the midwife and see if I should head in.

I'm a mess today, and haven't slept yet from last night.


He left me 18 weeks pregnant with twins for another.I am a Licensed Private Investigator..it even happens to us.

Posts: 354 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Canada
Hrtbrken1
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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you strength and hugs.


Me-BW
Him-WH
Together 16 years, married 10.
DDay 07/26/2011, 8 month EA/PA with friend of our family. Months of TT.
DDay#2 Early spring 2012, confirmed EA with another woman.

Posts: 144 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Sunny South
Gotmegood
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Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Question: sending for your midwife because you might be in labor? Or is your midwife part of your support system? When is your due date?


Me: faithful wife 62.
Him: WH 64 , prostitute 20 yr old
DDay: 8-13-2013
Status: boinging up and down like a yo-yo

Posts: 484 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Florida
Lostandpregnant
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Calling her just to see if she wants to check on the babies, because I'm feeling so crappy.

I'm 5.5 months pregnant.


He left me 18 weeks pregnant with twins for another.I am a Licensed Private Investigator..it even happens to us.

Posts: 354 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Canada
mof2
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((Lost)))))))). When are you due???


BW - Me 43
WH - Cheating Swine 43
Dday - February 12, 2013....a week before I was to give birth to the child I miscarried and 12 days before our 5th anniversary.

Posts: 316 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: DFW
Lostandpregnant
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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

March. I'm at high risk for preterm labour with the twins, so it's a constant monitored situation. That's why this whole thing has been even harder than it normally would be (being cheated on and left).


He left me 18 weeks pregnant with twins for another.I am a Licensed Private Investigator..it even happens to us.

Posts: 354 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Canada
devasted30
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you my strength. Holding on as tightly as I can. I'm routing for you. Hang in there.
(((((HUGS)))))


And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!

Posts: 1323 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
mof2
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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry, we posted at the same time. Breathe. Focus on your beautiful children and those babies. They are what is important. Not him! My husband left me a week before I was due to give birth to a baby I miscarried months earlier and I was crushed. I cannot imagine how you are feeling. Keep coming here....great support. Your H is bat sh@t crazy douche bag.


BW - Me 43
WH - Cheating Swine 43
Dday - February 12, 2013....a week before I was to give birth to the child I miscarried and 12 days before our 5th anniversary.

Posts: 316 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: DFW
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Millions of hugs to you.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8844 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
myowndystopia
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Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Strength and hugs to you. It's so crappy how days are unpredictable!


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
Momof2under2
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Keep yourself focused on your children. Breathe. And gain your strength from them!! (((Hugs))))

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Lola7
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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope you're doing ok. PM me if you need to. I think about you every day.


caelitus mihi vires
"My strength is from heaven"
DIVORCED!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Nov 2013
Lyonesse
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, call the midwife for support. Garner whatever support you can. You need it and anyone with half a brain and heart would want to give it to you. Does the midwife know the extra pressure you are under? She should. She will be more likely to take your concerns seriously rather than brush them off as pre-delivery jitters if she knows you are under real psychological and physiological stress.

And always, you have our support and strength.

Please take good care L&P, and do whatever you need to help with the anxiety now. Don't hold back from asking for help.


Me: BS, 40's.

Posts: 1797 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
njgal480
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My heart breaks for you.

Do you have family or friends that you could turn to?

You have so much to deal with. Do you have someone to help you with the children?

Calling the mid wife is a good idea but please do reach out for more help.



Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA
Reconciled.


Posts: 3163 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: NJ
HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Lostandpregnant)))

I'm having a lot of anxiety, and not doing so well.

The following website has some guided imagery podcasts from Kaiser Permanente that may be helpful with the anxiety and sleep issues:
https://members.kaiserpermanente.org/redirects/listen/

ETA: There is also a podcast for Pregnancy and childbirth.

[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 10:48 AM, December 7th (Saturday)]


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


Posts: 5695 | Registered: Aug 2007
Secrets Kept
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending hugs & strength your way.

And yes, please tell your midwife about your whole situation. She may know of other resources available out there to help you.

Get word out in you community, through a church, schools, etc. Not about WH leaving & all that. It just needs to be known that you are alone & will soon have 7 children to care for.

I would jump at the chance to help someone like you in my community if I knew about it. I would gladly volunteer a few hours here & there to help with babies, cleaning, or the older children. So please get the word out.

Take care of yourself, sweetie. We are all here for you.


Marriage #1=BW-46 (now)
XWH-Deceased on his 36 bday
Divorced in 1996
Marriage #2= Married in 2003
H-44
2 kids together-DS14 & DD12
"All this time I was finding myself & I didn't know I was lost"

Posts: 219 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest USA
whichwaysup
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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LaP,
I'm so sorry today's not a good day. With the hormones & holidays, it just doesn't get any worse.
Talk openly to your midwife & dr.'s. At my last appointment they informed me of the medications that are safe for us stressed out, anxious, & depressed expectant moms. While I opted not to take anything yet, I know that if it comes down to the welfare of my baby I will have to make that choice. If you really can't cope right now, it's a matter of benefits out weighing the risks.
Sending all the love & light I have left!

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Jeaniegirl
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Default  Posted: 12:10 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((( L&P ))) Please do as everyone is advising and 'reach out' for help. Start with the midwife about help as your babies are so very important. You are too.

I am quite sure there are several really strong women (and men!) here on this forum that would LOVE to have that ass-wipe H of yours in a small room for just ONE hour. We'd have him whimpering like the little bitch he is.

YOU are valuable as a person, as a mom - and do not forget it. Don't talk to HIM, he's causing your anxiety.

Concentrate on YOU and the kids and the unborn babies. You CAN do it.


"Because I deserve better"

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Skan
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Default  Posted: 1:10 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hugs))) Give your midwife a call, explain the situation, and have her check you. Since she's plugged into the community, ask her if there is someone that she can think of that might be available to watch your children for a couple of days a week. She may know of someone who can help with your special needs child as well. But most of all, get yourself checked. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4935 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
myowndystopia
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Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey L&P- saw you just posted on another thread so I wanted to check on you as well. I know today was one of those difficult days for you. Hope you are feeling stronger now!


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


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