Why would it ever get better?
At the beginning it truly feels like it's impossible. I felt the same way. I was fairly cooperative with the whole R thing, but in my heart of hearts I didn't really think it could work.
But it did. Not that we're totally out of the woods yet, but it's so much better and I never thought it would be.
So, there IS hope.
I've been sitting here wracking my brains trying to think of the most important advice to give you now. And I could write 20 pages of do's and don'ts, but I don't want to overwhelm you. So, I will just tell you to know that you CAN make a difference. Most days right now it won't seem like that is true, so you will need to hang on to that thought. I promise you that we have progressed as much as we have almost solely bc of my husband. He was completely tenacious and determined to make this work, no matter what I said out loud. And eventually I believed him.
This will be the hardest thing you've ever done. Hang in there and post for help whenever you need it.