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User Topic: He asked me to *please* change my last name...
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah I figure OWifetress was all good with sleeping with my husband, sleeping in my bed, riding my quad (this, is what she felt "funny" about?) and being a poor second choice to me (but the only choice xWH had when I left) she can share the damn name.

Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1781 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unbelievably, my ex-WH officially objected to my divorce petition request to change my name back to my maiden name! Apparently he thought he could legally block the change. How his L let him do that is mystifying.

NPD much?

Divorced 11/2010
In a relationship with a WONDERFUL man. Engaged 04/2012

Posts: 161 | Registered: Apr 2008 | From: Oklahoma
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^WTF? That's so weird.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5619 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fuck him. It would give me great satisfaction to know that keeping his name pissed him off.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

Posts: 1575 | Registered: Aug 2010
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Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I chose at the time of my divorce to take back my maiden name but I did not adopt using it until about three years ago. So for the first five years after the divorce I still went by my married name. It pissed poopsmear off so bad that even though I had legally changed it there was nothing legally wrong with me continuing to use the married name and nothing he could do about it. Trust me, I consulted my lawyer because he was livid and threaten to take me back to court and force me to. My attorney assured me that I could go by whatever name I wanted to. Technically, it would be considered an alias. I didn't change my drivers license, Social Security card, bank accounts or anything until three years ago. At that time I just took my divorce decree down and showed it at the DMV and Soc Sec offices and got those things done.

My advice would be if you ever decide you want to change your last name to your maiden then go ahead and do it at the time of the divorce and carry right on using your married name as long as you want to. FTG, There's not a damn thing he can do about it and he can go suck eggs. You will have saved the expense and that aggravation of having to go do it later.

-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I never took his name in the first place. I am glad now. My degrees, bar admission, everything in maiden name. The kids all have his last name and it has never caused any problems, even travelling internationally without him.

What is messed up though is that XH's last name is the same as OW's *first* H's last name (ie not the one she recently divorced due to the A, that was her second H). So if XH becomes that useless troll's 3rd H, she will already be used to the name.

BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 739 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's your name now too. Screw him.

Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10


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