I'll be the first to admit I am not the easiest person to live with, I am very moody, independent, quiet, and oh so set in my ways. Guess that was a problem, and the fact I don't communicate enough. Where the fuck have I heard that before ?!?!?(Xh told me I didn't communicate enough, one of the many reasons he gave for why) Merry fucking christmas .......
I'm not anything he is leaving, go I can't stand him anyway ...... but Grrrr....... I guess me not saying "Hey when you wash dishes use warm soapy water, Hey when you take a shit close the door when your done, Hey when you spit toothpaste, boogers, blood ect in the sink wipe it out ......" ect. things I have never thought needed explaining. Oh dog shit on the floor, clean it up, nope he leaves it, steps in it. Just fucking oblivious.
He has a ready excuse/answer for everything. I can't smell(Who's shit is odorless ?), my job keeps me to busy blah blah blah ..... He has admitted more than once tonight he does not need the money, he has 2 rentals out of state, he is an Lt in the Army, he makes money. He is just being a dick, because he can, and he knows he can. Fuck me I hate people.
I am so screwed, and I am going to be his bitch till this shit is paid off.
You all were right, and I so regret not listening to you all, and giving him the benefit of the doubt. Never again.
I was scarred and embarrassed to ask for a lease, I had no idea how to do that. I could make a lease, that easy. But getting it signed, was where I was hung up.
Ah the lessons just keep coming when does it end ???
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
If you don't have the money, he will have to be patient or take you to court. What is he going to be able to prove in court, though? He gave you money and has no legal document showing what it is for.
I'd be more concerned that he is being a dick while still living there.
I don't see what you "not being easy to live with" has anything to do with it. He wasn't a good roommate - sounds like beyond a slob to downright unhygienic. And dishonest.
Can you compromise? That you would be willing to return $300 for the 2nd month he paid ahead, but he has left you in a lurch with no notice and it is unfair to expect the full $600?
I would let him take me to small claims court. It will take time for that to come around. It will be somewhat of a hassle for him so he may not follow through. But, in the meantime you can be stashing away a little bit of money to be able to pay him if he wins. Don't assume he will win. You would be surprised what the judge can decide.
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
Personally, I would tell him to go fuck himself with a rusty chainsaw and whistle for the money! There isn't much he could do except take you to small claims court, and that would probably be more of a hassle to him than the money is worth.
But I'm just feeling really bitchy today.
Seriously. Do not cave just to get rid of him. He stayed in your home, there's a fee for that. Just like for anyone else.
Personally, I would tell him to go fuck himself with a rusty chainsaw and whistle for the money! There isn't much he could do except take you to small claims court, and that would probably be more of a hassle to him than the money is worth
As for LtJackass, logically here would he really take you to small claims court for $600? To invest time and money for court costs to collect $600?
$1000 maybe but c'mon. I'm an accounting student nerd and there's word for it: immaterial. This is immaterial. He just wants to try to bully you.
And if he's being a real dick, ask him if he would like you to write to his command on a weekly basis complaining how Mr. Officer & Gentleman is trying to extort money out of you? A single woman trying to make her way alone ....
D-Day, June 10, 2012
OMG !!!!!!! I did it and it feels amazing. I found my back bone and I used it. Thanks to a push from a friend here
I stood up to him and stood my ground !!!!!!!! I did not back down, I did not fight, name call, yell ect ect ... I was calm, to the point, said few words but words of truth, and I let the silence speak for itself. I'll see how it all works out .......
How do I figure out who his commander is ??? He is an Lt. how do I do that w/o him knowing ??? If I need to, I'm not doing that yet, but if I need to, if I feel intimidated again I'd like to know. Thank you all so much. It really helped knowing I had someplace to go, some people who cared, would understand .... and be unbiased and give the good as well as the bad .... and I soooooo appreciate that. Thank you again.
I'll keep you updated as this goes along ...
The 2 months advance rent is intended to reserve his accommodations for the next 60 days. If he chooses not to avail himself of those rental days, then his security deposit is forfeited. So far as anyone knows, you had to turn away other renters to keep this spot for him for the next 2 months. Make a modest (not at all serious) effort to rent to someone else so you can honestly say you were willing to mitigate the loss and help him out, but no one took your offer.
^^ This. If you don't have a signed agreement, he doesn't have a leg to stand on. So what if he fumes and fusses. Kick his ass out, and find a decent roommate that will respect a roommate situation. He sounds like a dick, and you don't need that!
Seriously, no signed paperwork = no agreement. You win.
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
He is gone. He has one more load to take out tomorrow and no more.
He went from taking me to court for $600 to willing to work on $300 in payments. I said you did not give 30 days in writing so $300 is all you may get back. First I will be subtracting the prorated rent, damage and cleaning fees.
Then I said you have made it clear you do not need the money, so why are you so bent on getting your money back ??? What's the point ??? Just so you can make a point, just so you can say you were right ???
When I said he was just flexing his alpha maleness and ego ... he denied this. Saying he is not into "manly" things like football and beer ... Ummmm you can be an ego/testosterone/alpha type w/o the stereotypical stuff .... I don't think he believed me. When I told him it was true, and that he made me feel intimidated and scared he backed off. Specially when I said his tone of voice and the pacing back and forth he was doing was keeping rooted to the sofa, backed in a corner. If I had the $ then I would have just given it to him so he would leave me alone. I never felt physically threatened, but again I did not get off the sofa till he went to his room.
He agreed and apologized.
I can breathe again. Well till I think about the loss of money each month, and the fact I may have to try an swing 3 jobs. Won't that be fun ....
fml ... a little bit better thought that's why the small caps. Will see tomorrow if he still expects me to pay him what's left of the $300, if anything. I have not started cleaning/repairing anything, once I have the key back I will.
sigh ... But I have my best roommate back - myself we are great/perfect for eachother ........