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User Topic: Oooh, I would be pissed if I was OW
suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, I live in a place where we get snow. Sometimes, we gets lots of snow. Last night, we got a whopper.

I was at work and contemplating leaving early when all of a sudden a text comes through from exWH with whom I maintain NC except for kid issues. He tells me it would be best to leave now because of the conditions. My assumption is that this text is not for me since we've had 40 storms since he left 3 years ago and he's never once expressed concern for how I get home. So, I say, well, I'm not sure if this was meant for me, but if so, thanks for the warning. He gets back, no, it was meant for you.

That was weird enough but I still figured it was meant for the slunt and he wanted to save face after I questioned. Whatever.

Then, about an hour later, I get another one updating me on the road and weather conditions. Again, I think, this can't be meant for me. He again says, no, I just wanted to let you know how things are out here.

Now I'm convinced he mentally ill. I could see if he had asked about whether the kids were safe in a warm house during the storm, but he made no mention of them. it was all about him making sure I was safe. Plu-ease!

I brushed it off but then thought about how I would feel if I were the slunt. I quickly came to the conclusion that I would be pissed! There's no reason for him to worry about me and my well being. By all accounts, he could give a shit. Now, all of a sudden, he wants to be the hero and the protector?

Again, he's a sicko and she should be wondering what's up with her knight in shining armor. I don't think he would look so shiny anymore...

[This message edited by suckstobeme at 10:22 AM, December 13th (Friday)]


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

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careerlady
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I think it's normal behavior to be concerned about the mother of your children and that he wasn't normal during the prior storms. The WSes behave so badly I think it skews what common decency is

But since OW has no common decency I'm sure she'll be pissed as well!


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
Hasn't moved out yet
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 930 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmmm methings perhaps everything isn't so perfect in cheatinass fantasyland!
Maybe her unicorn farts aren't skittles anymore but cropdusters of vileness.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2141 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
Snapdragon
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Default  Posted: 11:40 AM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you die then he has to be a father 100% of the time. Perhaps he now knows that OW would not be fond of that happening. Therefore he better make sure you live!

Just a thought......


Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink


Posts: 3070 | Registered: May 2004 | From: Midwest
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm baffled. I also have NEVER had XWH show any concern for me or DD since D-Day for ANY weather conditions. I would be shocked if I ever heard from him in that manner.

Now I'm convinced he mentally ill.
Now what would ever give you that idea?

I hear they got it really bad out by him and the surrounding areas.

My commute home was pretty hairy, but it stopped by around 6:30 and the roads were cleared a few hours later.

[This message edited by sparkysable at 11:50 AM, December 13th (Friday)]


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you die then he has to be a father 100% of the time. Perhaps he now knows that OW would not be fond of that happening. Therefore he better make sure you live!

^ ^ ^ THIS ^ ^ ^

It was all self serving, I'm sure.


AJ's MOM

[This message edited by ajsmom at 11:46 AM, December 13th (Friday)]


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"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you die then he has to be a father 100% of the time. Perhaps he now knows that OW would not be fond of that happening. Therefore he better make sure you live!
And you KNOW that you CANNOT die, right?


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3164 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm thinking his buyers remorse is really settling in.

But, yes, he is loco. And yes, slunty slore would prolly be very, very, very annoyed at her KISA.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 727 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
JerseyCowgirl
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Default  Posted: 12:21 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm with those who believe something must not be so good with the OW--you know trouble in paradise-land, he's finding out that not only is the grass NOT greener on the other side of the fence but he has to mow that grass too! If you ever wanted a little revenge against her--now's your chance!


Me: Divorced 2012
I know that when I truly love & honor myself I am at my best & most complete; and I will never settle for anything less from myself or from anyone else ever again!

Posts: 286 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Have not decided where to land yet!
peridot
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Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He may also be buttering you up because he wants something.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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finallymefirst
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My guess is the fog is finally lifting and he remembered. "oh, its bad out I better warn Suckstobeme,". I love sex as much as anyone, but eventually those annoying habits creep in and sometimes invade the bedroom and since the cum filled haze is probably over, he can remember that there was a time that u were friends. It probably was a knee jerk reaction. He can "see" u now that the fog is gone.

Keep up the good work with NC. I feel so internally happy now, that I swear its making me look younger and better. Maybe he is seeing that in u too.


Posts: 112 | Registered: Oct 2013
SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my experience this kind of thing is usually a sign of some major fuckery coming my way. I haven't been wrong in almost 18m.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hee hee... yeah, we got a fair amount of snow in our area...

Funny-- my XWH emailed me about a couple of things about the kids today, and his tone was unusually nice and conversational. My instant thought was: "What's he up to, and what does he want?" Maybe the holidays make them feel sorry for themselves, so they're hoping to get some kibbles from us. Yeah. So not happening. You wanted CommandOwife, and you got her, Ziploc bags and all!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got a similar thing from the Gnat awhile back. He had picked up the kids and on his way home he sent me a text warning me to avoid one highway due to a major accident. He and the kids had been stuck for a half hour. It was so weird. It was not a way that I would have been headed for any reason. Anywhere i'd be going would be in the opposite direction. He got crickets.

[This message edited by newlysingle at 9:41 PM, December 13th (Friday)]


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 809 | Registered: Mar 2013
roughroadahead
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Waffle does this all the time. He works shifts, so he watched the youngest two kids today during the day (right of first refusal). I pick up the kids, and I know OW is there. I see her coat hanging by the door, and her keys hanging too. I think she was hiding in the former marital bedroom. Waffle, unfazed, stands on the doorstep and chats about the weather, asks about work, tells me about the kids, just on and on. He doesn't text as often as he used to (a goodnight text every night for the first 5-ish months of S) but I wouldn't be surprised if he told me to drive carefully during bad weather.

It has nothing to do with her and so far I haven't noticed any correlation with when he does stupid things. I think most of the stupid things he's done are after arguments with her, to show that he's standing up to me. It fails, because the things he does are stupid. I see it more as him wanting to be "friends" (ugh) with me so he doesn't feel like a terrible person, and because he's probably hanging on to the past a little bit too. I don't think OW was his choice, but that's the bed he made. Too bad, so sad.


BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 725 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
shiloe
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Default  Posted: 5:39 AM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Forward those emails to the slunt.


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

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