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User Topic: t/j - time machine, of sorts
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My membership was just recently upgraded to a premium membership, which means I now have access to a lot of my older posts. So it's kind of like a time machine to my past, and a safe one, because I can't change the past and end up with a different future, kwim?

I've already spent more than several hours re-reading threads from when I joined SI as inconnu back in 2009. That was right after my 3rd d-day, btw. I had found the secret cell phone which confirmed ex was still cheating.

I got to see the posts I made when ex walked out on me and the kids, the ones I posted when I filed for divorce, and of course the ones from the 2009 Christmas from hell. I've only made it through the beginning of 2010, and except for the very beginning of my posts, I've been randomly reading threads.

I expected it to be triggery, and sad, but it wasn't.

Instead, what I could really see is how far I've come since then. And omg, the love and support I've received from both past and present SIers...there aren't words to adequately describe it. But god, my heart and soul are so filled with positive energy right now. It's just amazing.

SI is amazing. Thank you, all.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12164 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Keep reading and you should get an idea of exactly how huge an impact YOU have had on other posters here, inconnu. I know that when I go back to read my posts from 2011 and 2012, you are all over them sharing support and love, and I know I wasn't the only beneficiary.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25696 | Registered: Aug 2011
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah Inconnu!! You have helped me and many others. Thank you.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2702 | Registered: Jan 2010
SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^ what they said.

I too have read through my first posts I was astonished at how clear the situation is to me now when back then I was so deep in the BS fog I didn't know which was was up.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5608 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12164 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree too inconnu! I think you know there are many days that you kept me sane. Thanks for always being here inconnu!!! It's been quite the journey.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5521 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get every word you wrote. I have recently read back and it makes sense to me now why certain SI'ers have their names on my heart. Thank God for the wisdom that sticks and sticks around!

(((inconnu)))

We've come a long way!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5859 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 12:13 AM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're a brave woman; I'm afraid to upgrade and see what a stewing mess I was back in 2009.

Even if you hadn't upgraded, we could have told you you've come a long way, baby.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20273 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 12:18 AM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're one of my favorites to read and to get comments from. You have helped me to heal and made me laugh and find hope in myself. You're awesome inconnu


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1777 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
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