[This message edited by Want To Wake Up at 8:14 PM, December 14th (Saturday)]
One man’s “fruitless conflict” is another man’s “meaningful discussion”
Life's tough, it's tougher when your stupid.
Whether the dude was real or not, the person behind it (legit super rich dude banging high class whores or some slug living in their mother's basement binge eating Cheetos and Diet Coke while trolling infidelity support forums) desperately needs help.
And here's another thing. I think there's probably more lurkers than actual posters on SI on any given day. That being said, even though the comments and advice given to the original poster may not have been received how we would like to see, that doesn't mean that other lives were not affected and/or touched.
I've seen trolls cause a scene here and days later, a lurker would post and say, "Ya know, the advice that so-and-so gave was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you for being here SI."
If one life is affected in a positive way by the support and advice here, it's kinda worth having to deal with the occasional troll. It is to me anyway.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
I think the mods here do a fantastic job, so I let them do it
I actually hope he was a troll, because it's depressing to think of an unknowing BS out there suffering with him as a partner.
In any case, whether he was for real or not, I hope he gets the help he needs.
Digging our way through.
I am horrified each and every time a friend of my mother n'laws says this to me. I usually never respond as that is obviously the world they live in..
I imagined suspended's wife to be someone like that.
I really did read all the rules when I signed up but there was so much running through my head, that apparently some things didn't sink in & since I am/was both a WW & a BW, I was posting in JFO, which I was informed was a no-no.
But I just answered the mod's questions & explained my sitch & all was good. So due to that, I now trust more when someone is banned from this site.
BUT....it really upset me that day & I almost didn't reply & just said screw it. But then after calming down somewhat, I figured the mods are here for a reason & since I was legit, I typed my reply & was cleared.
I was also very recently following a thread on the JFO & then this person was suspended from the site & it was a surprise, as I was "hooked" on hearing the outcome for her.
But really, if you have time to just "lurk" & be on the site for the wrong reasons, then you need to get a life & find something worthwhile to occupy your time. I hate that I am addicted to this site as much as I am & feel I have a legit reason for it. God forbid, if I just wanted to read about everyone elses hurt & pain, I would truly wonder what was wrong with myself.
So I wanted to second the kudos to the mods on this site for keeping an eye out for the "fakers". It can't be an easy "job", so thank you for having our backs!!!
exH makes lots of money, had hidden bank accounts and a hidden lifestyle that was fueled by his ability to travel. He had men at every port, or took them traveling with him, lavish gifts and trips (where I was at home raising the young children…alone…). He felt he deserved to cheat on me. He also felt that I had a perfectly acceptable life because I didn't have to work, could be a SAHM, had any monetary thing I needed. We were having sex and everything on the exterior looked perfectly fine. He would have never told me because he wanted both…the cute wife/kids and nice home to come home to, and the fun, grandiose, carefree sex fueled gay life.
Ex also said his head felt like a tornado…but he had it all under control. It was all under control until one of the boy toys blew up his little fantasy world.
So, I do believe that there were parts of suspended that were probably true. I was the wife in that scenario. It is too bad that people like him are too prideful to really get help. The truth he won't tell her because it is the easiest thing for him. I felt very sorry for his wife.
I thought about sending him a PM, but decided he probably wouldn't listen, he was still trying to justify everything in his head.
I admire the WS that come to SI to really get and ask for help.
[This message edited by cmego at 2:24 PM, December 17th (Tuesday)]
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
I wish he would have followed the site rules because I do believe inside is a very broken (if you're reading Suspended, I know you hate that term) soul and needs help in reaching a life where he can actually look at himself with love instead of masking it.
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
I'm dealing with my stbx, 'member? My stbx is every bit as arrogant and prideful as suspended was......and holds a LOT of the same beliefs as suspended espoused.
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Betcha $100 he doesn't give up his cheating ways. He had zero remorse for what he did and has done nothing to fix himself; according to him he has nothing to fix.
Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people
He might have gotten it eventually.
It's a shame he couldn't swallow his pride and follow some simple posting rules. He could have gotten some good help here if he wanted it!
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."
Sad. Broken people all over the place and they just blindly waltz thru life like they're some special unicorn.
Whoever, whatever he is, he needs help. And most likely, probably won't get it. Because he refuses to see he needs it. That's the truly sad thing. Maybe he'll wake up one day. Who knows.
[This message edited by Aubrie at 3:05 PM, December 17th (Tuesday)]
I found his posts to be very interesting, for that reason. It was a true window into the mind of someone who is wired in that way.
Sending everyone love for the holiday ...
Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.