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User Topic: I even got his friends in the D
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One of Wxh's friend does snow plowing. I'm having a home emergency, and called him to come plow my driveway this weekend.

Since the D, we have talked periodically-usually when he needs something. So, yesterday as we talked about the snow plowing, he said "I haven't seen Williesdad for several years. I talk to you waaaay more often."

Apparently, during the D, wxh was telling this friend how controlling I was (because I expected him to work and not chase other women). After the D, this friend spent an afternoon with wxh and his new bar whore/girlfriend. Apparently, she sat on her ass and barked orders while wxh jumped to her orders.

Friend said, "Williesdad, what are you doing? That chick is nuts. You fucked up a really good life with williesmom, and she's done with you, but you can't have a life with BarWhore."

I think that I never realized how awesome my friends are- even the fringe ones.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7038 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome, WM.


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 12:20 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Williesdad

I'm sorry, but your ex is doesn't even deserve to share your name. I in my mouth a little when I read that.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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persevere
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've had similar experiences with his "friends", and while I'm glad they get it, I still always find it sad that he can't, or won't, see how his behavior has alienated so many who care about him. But, it is no longer my problem, so I don't dwell on it.

Good for you WM.


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4160 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AMA- thanks! Your made me laugh.

However, willies was his dog. That poor dog missed him more than i did when we split up. We both deserved better from him.

[This message edited by Williesmom at 3:46 PM, December 15th (Sunday)]


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think most of x's friends hate me because I kicked his ass in the divorce. Whatever.

Only one of my Irish cousins still speaks to him. The rest, not so much.

[This message edited by FaithFool at 4:03 PM, December 15th (Sunday)]


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
Celebrating 60 years on Earth

Posts: 16635 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Faith- very funny! No reason for us to tone it down at that point. We kick ass every single day.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7038 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That conversation must have been a nice validation.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was validating for me, but I already knew what a nice life we had.

The best part is that my new life is even better.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7038 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, of course you got his friends in the D.
He's a jagoff.
Who wants to be friends with a jagoff?


ish kabibble

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Harriet
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay, Williesmom! That must have been nice to hear. I don't think most of my exes friends know the whole story. Those that have heard through the grapevine are pretty horrified and tell me so.


D-Day Spring 2008
Divorce Final 6/7/12

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Starfish1973
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol. I am not D (yet) but WH did tell his BF about his A.

Immediately, BF told him how wrong and stupid he was, and I have noticed how much nicer BF is to me now.

Beauty!


Married 11 years. Together for 14
Female, age 40. WH is 47.
DD, aged 6
Found out about affair November 1, 2013
Info is only trickling in :-( it was a long affair.

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