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User Topic: NB's made me smile during a dreaded task
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Forgot to add Task

Last night was the first major snowstorm of the season. This was a first for me in My new home. At some point, during the storm, there was some sleet so the snow developed a thick crust and weighed a ton.

Normally the ex would have taken care of it with his huge snow blower (I will not mention his need to compensate). In addition, I had injured my rotator cuff a few years ago but I have worked really hard to rehab it. I have been feeling really strong! After a few minutes of just staring at the snow I got to work. The shoulders felt fine.

About halfway done I began to smile. I think I may have even laughed out-loud!
You got this, Rising!

This is my home and I can take care of it. My life is so much better with out him that I can actually feel happy in the freezing cold shoveling a ton heavy snow!
I felt so joyful and grateful standing there, shovel in hand, snot dripping out of my nose, appreciating my independance.

[This message edited by risingfromashes at 5:50 PM, December 15th (Sunday)]


There is life on the other side of hell.

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suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you!!!!!!!

I remember when exWH first left, a good friend of mine who had been D for several years already said, "you're going to be amazed at what you can accomplish without a man."

She's right. In the three years he's been gone, I've refinished my back deck, remodeled two bathrooms, dealt with floods in the basement, weed whacked the crap out of the yard, had a new furnace installed, and on and on and on. Just today, we got our live Christmas tree which I carried off the top of my car and set up with the help of my 71 year old mom.

All of it feels great. Even when something breaks or there is an unexpted crisis, I calm my self down by telling myself that exWH would have been useless in that situation anyway.

You can do this and your sense of pride at taking care of your own beautiful home will only grow stronger with every improvement or repair you accomplish!!!!!!!


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2766 | Registered: Jan 2011
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17341 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am SO FREAKIN PROUD of you!!!!!!!!

You are awesome.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5776 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
better4me
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I felt so joyful and grateful standing there, shovel in hand, snot dripping out of my nose, appreciating my independance.
That's a pretty picture! Yea you, rising!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3096 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nailed it! We can do so much .


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7565 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great job!

I can't help but think of a line from a song I used to sing in Girl Scouts "take that frown and turn it upside down." What a great start to the week!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


Posts: 3318 | Registered: Dec 2011
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have put a new stereo in my car, taken my son camping for 4 nights, worked for a year and a half at a quick lube and yes I changed the oil. I have discovered that I am very capable of doing things that are normally done by a guy. I love that my son sees me accomplish these things.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1728 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
brightsidegirl
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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you!

I also had a similar moment when I took apart the vacuum cleaner to put the belt back on. Best of all, I taught my DS10 how to do it for the next time!

We are so capable if given the chance and bit of confidence. And each time we accomplish something like this, we gain more confidence! Yay us!


I tried to be everything you'd ever want and sometimes I even stood on my heart and stomped. Now I'm finally alone and dressed for the show but going nowhere.
--Sara Bareilles

Posts: 34 | Registered: Dec 2013
MyVoice
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Default  Posted: 5:36 AM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 470 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia
nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What an awesome post!!


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2589 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Woot! WTG rising!!!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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