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User Topic: Just girly stuff. Makeovers, shoes, hair...
Spelljean
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I'm at least a year or two from being ready to date. D isn't final yet and still in major recovery mode....

But I feel I need a make-over for Me. So bored with the usual. Hate my shoes, my dull brown purse, my bobbed hair. (I love bobs, just been working this look forever)

Tired of demure. Want something new and sexy. Tastefully sexy.

Pointy toed pumps maybe? Or a little color in my wardrobe.

Any women out there do a self make-over in this process?


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
better4me
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yes, yes, yes. I started working out more, kept hair appointments every 6 weeks, experimented with new color and new styles of hair. Bought new underwear that was sexy for me! It is fun to dress and look attractive just for yourself!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3078 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, I started wearing different items. Adding more color to my wardrobe. My "thing" appears to be shoes. People that I work with make a point to check out my shoes on a daily basis.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7535 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

During my divorce, I embraced both my inner redhead and my suppressed shoe lust. So now I'm a sassy redhead who has lots of fun shoes in her closet.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12144 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: TX
cmego
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I cut my hair off. I had the bob thing, and a new hair stylist suggested a cute but sassy look…and I went with it! Think "rocker/pixie". I've had it a few years now and trying to grow it out now, but it was great to have a completely new "look".

At the time, I wanted the short hair to hold guys back. I thought no guys like short hair on women. I was wrong.

I lost weight and try really hard to remember to wear clothes that actually FIT me and show off my assets. I dress cute and FOR ME.

I think a new hairstyle does wonders for women


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4110 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Spelljean
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great idea..I just realized how long its been since I bought any new underwear. (!)

Red hair is something I want to go back to. I was born a redhead, it just naturally darkened throughout the years.

Desperate to go pretty short on the hair too.


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
persevere
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm currently working on a makeup re-do - well at least contemplating and researching it. I'm 43 now, and I'm just not happy with my makeup anymore. I'm a makeup girl - not into the natural no makeup thing but at 40+ you need to adjust. Any suggestions are appreciated.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4456 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
seekingright2013
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Check out Christopher Hopkins on you tube -- he has the most amazing makeover videos. SO inspiring. He's got a book too called 'staging your comeback'. I didn't get as much out of the book but I think it's because I didn't feel like doing all the assessment exercises I checked it out of the library, might get it again when I'm feeling a little more motivated.

The videos are really fun and omg some of the makeovers are incredible.


BSO, 53
exWSO, who cares
DD: 11/18/12
DD2: 11/21/12
Kicked him to the curb 11/21/12
“I tramp a perpetual journey.”
― Walt Whitman, Song of Myself

Posts: 116 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Red State SE US
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Go easy with the 'new hair' but cut loose with everything else. Hair takes a while to grow back, but you can adjust your makeup and clothes at any point.

Be brutally honest in deciding what style(s) look good on you, then go to town with it. Go to a department store or a place like Sephora and get a makeover. Enjoy yourself!


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 19995 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Spelljean
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Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great suggestions.

I too am tired of my make up routine. (Along with everything else!)

I did consider.a department store makeover if just for new application techniques. Whatever I am using I think is aging me.


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
Blackhair
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Default  Posted: 1:14 AM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice topic, I love to join for sure.
I am in my late forties, but I do looks younger than my age, I believe. Hehe

What I did to look pretty? New hair cut, I prefer nature looking so simply some nice layer, I am not a heavy make up person, but a bit foundation is all I do. Nice trimmed eye brows.

But I did Botox, just the basic one. I love it! I know some ladies won't agree with this one, believe me I used to think the same way.

Bought a brand name perfume for Xmas. -:)


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

Posts: 175 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 1:24 AM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've grown my hair long and love it! And in the new year I'm going to get some lowlights in my hair, actually embracing my dark locks for the first time in years (WH made sure I knew he preferred redheads, I didn't dye, but felt like my natural looks weren't good enough)

My weight loss has allowed me to start wearing more fashionable clothes (skinny jeans!), and I've got some lovely shoes - I can now walk in stilettos.

I went to a wedding and saw a bunch of people I hadn't seen for a couple of years. They were shocked (in a good way) at how I look now. One of the boys summed it up saying "Umm, wow you look...WELL!...you look 10 years younger" (He wasn't coming onto me, he just has no filter between his brain and his mouth )

I think a lot of it is embracing my own wants/needs that were suppressed for so long with WH's A negativity/selfishness. Playing with my looks is part of figuring out who I am.

I realise that with WH, I went from confident, fit and sexy, to low self-esteem, unfit and frumpy. Now that he's gone I'm getting 'me' back. Still working on the confidence - that really took a beating.


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
COW - EA/PA 'Fat Bottomed Girl'
COW - Susp EA 'MiniMe'

Posts: 858 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
Newlease
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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My XWH liked me to dress VERY conservatively. He liked me in short hair. I had put myself last on the list for anything when we were raising our family.

I grew my hair out in long layers, got professional coloring done, lost weight on the I diet, bought clothes that were figure flattering (not overly sexy), and I got tons of compliments too. People told me I looked younger and my XWH looked old. It was a great pick me up!

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ohhhh, yes yes yes.
I got a new hairstyle, new color, highlights. My hair is jet blue/black. My STBXH loved my natural hair.
Pfffft. I was bored with it.
I did some chemical peels to brighten my skin color and pull the healthy skin underneath out.
The infideltity diet meant I had NO clothes that fit. So I went clothes shopping. My shoes were so big cuz my feet lost weight too! I went shoes and boots shopping, see my other posts.
I get my mani pedi's on a regular now.
I wear contacts instead of glasses on the weekends. I put on make up.
I enjoy myself and my new look.
I'm letting my hair grow long again. It's been short for a few years now.
I want to lose even more weight, and I'm still working out when I can make time.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2213 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

http://www.graspingforobjectivity.com/2012/07/gap.html

Read this blog then go jeans shopping!


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6355 | Registered: Jan 2011
BrokenDaisy
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I went from being blonde my whole life (natural blonde but got darker as I aged so I highlighted to keep it up) to a dark brunette. Still getting used to it but it feels more me now. I'm not the carefree blonde I used to be so I don't feel comfortable with it anymore. New me, new hair.


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Divorced!!

Posts: 242 | Registered: Oct 2012
nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Spelljean, is there a Sephora near you? They can advise you what products would be good for you, make up wise, and show you how to apply them too.

I grew my hair long and got contacts. I did the Sephora thing and got cool make up. I bought tons of clothe and shoes and boots too


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2585 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
20Hopeful16
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Apparently losing 200+ pounds looks good on me (the 25 off my own body and the rest that was WH) because I have never had so many compliments... not just from my close friends (who could just be trying to make me feel better) but from random acquaintances as well. :)

I haven't really done much with my hair except actually do it... blow dry and style instead of just up in a pony. I've been applying make-up regularly. I went shopping in October with friends and bought fall/winter clothes two sizes smaller than what I had been wearing.

Craziest thing I've done? I've always wanted to get waxed... down there. So I finally did it. I LOVE it!


Me: BS (39)
Three Beautiful Children 12,9,5
DD: 8/24/13
Heading for divorce
Moving on with life

Posts: 107 | Registered: Aug 2013
gardenparty
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was very lucky after my divorce. I have 2 daughters, 1 worked at Le Chateau and 1 at Aldo. I was able to update my wardrobe and shoes for a very minimal price. I was like other mothers here who never bought stuff for myself. Wore the same winter coat for 12 years, used to buy the 3 packs of men's sleeved undershirts to wear with my jeans and never had my hair done. Although I still don't experiment with colour (too chicken), my hair is cut every 6 weeks and sometimes I stop off on my way home from work on Fridays and get it styled for the weekend. I wish I hadn't put myself last for all those years but I am making up for it now.


divorced!

Posts: 2664 | Registered: Sep 2006 | From: newfoundland
Spelljean
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Definitely inspired!

Gonna try Sephora....


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
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