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User Topic: Question for All dog owners, please please answer. Thank you
Exit Wounds
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DOH!  Posted: 8:35 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi y'all

Dog issue was resolved on pg 1 now we are clawing ourselves through cat issue page 2. Thank you ALL!!!


I'm sorry I am posting a lot lately with all my little problems. I hope you guys don't mind me asking for so much support lately,

Here is my question,

as you ALL know by now I have a dog. He is 11 years old and CAN hold his pee, but "chooses" to sometimes mark his territory IN the house. I made him a very comfy bed, hoping that he would stay off MY chouches, but no, he sits on them...and my bed.
To make a long story short, yesterday when I went to wash the blanket on his bed, I saw he had peed on his bed. -I thought dog's won't pee where they sleep?!

So here is my big problem/question. I just bought new couches that will be here Friday. I am scared to death that he will just lift his leg on my new chouches! (He did this to my friends table before). I don't know where to put him during the day when I am at work. He hates outside. He thinks he is a child and only goes outside long enough to do his business and barks to be let in immidiately! Yes, I am well trained.

So my wonderful pet moms and dads, where is your little bundle of joy when you go to work? I am thinking to put him in the kitchen during the time I am at work but I know he will HATE that.-After all, his choice of place to nap is either my bed or the couches. (I am NOT thrilled about my bed).Like I said he is 11 now and not at the best of health so I almost feel like I am imprisoning him that way. KWIM?

Guys! I am soooo confused! Bottom line...

Where is your companion when you are not there? How do you prevent a dog from marking your stuff?
Vet said it is by choice not health issue that he marks stuff. He is NOT fixed (I got him at age 9) and vet said that he is not healthy enough to be put under so he will not be fixed -ever. I don't want him on my bed or my new couches but he had his habbits when I got him at age 9 and as an Afghan Hound, they do what they please anyways.
Please help!


Thank you my dear friends.

Love, peace, and a Marry Christmas to all,

[This message edited by Exit Wounds at 12:53 PM, December 17th (Tuesday)]


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crate him during the day.

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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have an older dog. When I am not at home, I put him in the basement. There is a doggie-door, so he can go outside into the fenced yard as he pleases. The basement is warm, carpeted areas, he has a nice dog bed, water, everything he needs. He hates going into the basement, like it is punishment! He also goes outside to do his business then immediately comes inside. He can't do stairs anymore, so when I am home, I take him out with me. I have noticed that he is very quick to want to come back inside but if I let him in too quickly, he will pee/poop on the carpet. I now make him stay outside for several minutes (he hates it now as it is cold).

My vet did say that medical conditions can make them incontinent. Have you tried putting him in a kennel when you are away? I did for awhile, but noticed my dog would pee in the kennel. I would put him somewhere, that IF he is going to make a mess, it will be easier for you to clean it up.

Sorry, not much advice!


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Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you guys for your advice.
Crate him during the day.
I'm afraid that crating him will be like a small prison cell to him. -He came from several VERY abusive homes where he was in a kennel 24/7 and beaten. Poor dog never had a kind person around until I rescued him. So now I want to make his last years on earth as comfortable as possible and so kenneling him would be a sense of back to the old life he had...

I know this sounds crazy but do you guys think if I keep him in my kitchen w/ food and water and a nice bed it is OK? I know he will HATE that. Like I said, he wants to sit on the couch or someone's bed. So this would be like prison but I think it is a "reasonable" enough solution? God this is hard...

I guess I am coming to the realization that giving him free range of the house (esp. w/ my new chouches) is not going to be possible anymore so I am trying to find a humane way of keeping him around but not allowing him to run the house...


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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

my lab gets into everything when we are gone, so what we have done is gave her a nice bed to lay on and she is confined to the kitchen when we are gone. She doesnt seem to have a problem with it. she goes and lays right down on it when we are getting ready to leave.


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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My puppy is crated during the day. But only because we live in an 800 square ft apartment, and it's an open floor plan.

If I had a kitchen I could baby gate off, that's where he'd be.

I see nothing wrong with keeping your dog in the kitchen. He may not like it, but that's too bad. You're the pack leader.


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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry, but I don't have any advice. I think it is wonderful that you rescued him from abusive homes. You have a loving heart.

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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with baby-gating him in the kitchen while you're gone. Make sure any of his favorite toys/blankets are with him. Puzzle toys (like Kong filled with treats/peanut butter) might keep him occupied. And, if you don't mind the expense, buy him his own "doggy couch". Check out Drs. Foster & Smith online.


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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know this sounds crazy but do you guys think if I keep him in my kitchen w/ food and water and a nice bed it is OK? I know he will HATE that. Like I said, he wants to sit on the couch or someone's bed. So this would be like prison but I think it is a "reasonable" enough solution?
It's more than reasonable, honey. He may not like it, but it's hardly abusive or neglectful! You're talking about putting him in a warm, clean, spacious (moreso than a crate, right?), comfortable room with access to food, water, and a cozy bed. What could possibly be seen as unreasonable there?


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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have four dogs. I stays in a crate because she chews. The older male crate, leg lifting. The other female crate with male or not she likes to stay with her bud. Other male where ever he wants.


I also have someone who will let them out mid day. Sometimes the non crates male will go with us. They all have been to obedience. He more then the others as he acts as a emotional support dog with my dd. He is certified.


I have fostered over 100 dogs. They all are created when we aren't home. I should add I do have an x pen for a tiled area I put them in sometimes instead of crate.


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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My dog use to be allowed on the furniture. Once I got new stuff, I wanted to break her of that. People told me they didn't think I would be able to break that habit but it worked. I got her doggie beds for each room and just told her "no" when she would come up on the couch/bed. It took a little while but she no longer is a furniture dweller

BUT that is sorta different than pee'ing on them to mark territory. I am not sure how you break them of that.

I agree with giving the kitchen a whirl. Just make sure she has a big comfy bed, etc and hopefully she will adjust.

It is hard when they get older (just like adults )...but a kitchen floor is much easier to clean up than a couch.

My dog is now 13 and 1/2 yrs. I keep waiting for her to not be able to 'hold it' all day.


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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's more than reasonable, honey. He may not like it, but it's hardly abusive or neglectful! You're talking about putting him in a warm, clean, spacious (moreso than a crate, right?), comfortable room with access to food, water, and a cozy bed. What could possibly be seen as unreasonable there?

My sentiments exactly.

This isn't a punishment. It's a necessary adjustment due to changing life circumstances. By making this kind of change, done in a loving way with the best of intentions, you're ensuring your sweet senior pup can continue to live in your home without getting into trouble or making a mistake that causes problems.


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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My dog came from a similar background. He has an "apartment"- it's a double size playpen with a bed, a rug, and his food (oh, and a fan- he loves his fan!). He's blind and mostly deaf, so he has to go in there for his safety, at times, but he LOVES his apartment and can't really settle down outside of it. Dogs are denning animals and they feel safer.

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Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have three dogs (and two cats, but that's not the today's topic).
One can be very destructive when he's bored. The other two are fine. We crate the little guy (the destructive one), close our bedroom/bathroom doors, then allow the two large dogs to roam free when we're not home.

A previous poster nailed it. Dogs LIKE dens. My little guy will often be in his crate (door open) when we're home simply because he enjoys it.

Please don't feel bad if you need to confine him to the kitchen while you're not at home. He's still warm, safe, and well cared for.

ETA: To clarify, we crate our little guy in the living room where he can see/hear the other two dogs. We close the bedroom doors to keep the dogs out of areas they dont need to be in while no one is at home.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 11:13 AM, December 17th (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ThoughtIKnewYa,
He has an "apartment"- it's a double size playpen with a bed, a rug, and his food (oh, and a fan- he loves his fan!). He's blind and mostly deaf, so he has to go in there for his safety, at times, but he LOVES his apartment
can I move into that apartment when I get old?

LOVE the idea of his apt! How cool is that?!

Thanks everyone for your ideas and support! I really don't feel as bad as before, knowing that the kitchen is OK.

[This message edited by Exit Wounds at 11:16 AM, December 17th (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have 3 dogs that are loved dearly. They are in crates during the day when we are not home and at night when we are in bed. We put in a doggy door so they could come and go when we ran short errands... they panic when we leave them out of their crates. They like their crates, they feel safe and secure in there. It is NOT a punishment to them.


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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One of my dogs never ever pees in the house. However, when she hs a UTI or bladder infection she will "leak" whenever she sleeps -- and you know how much dogs sleep! Anyway, you should get the vet to check if your dog has a UTI, bladder issue, or prostate problem.

I generally let my 2 dogs stay in the house when I am away. Unless there is a reason for me to think that it will be an issue, such as when I will be gone more than 8-9 hours or if the one has a UTI. Then they go in the finished basement where they can do less harm


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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How large is your fur baby? I have a large collapsible play pen I use when I need to confine my little ones - a Pomeranian and a Chihuahua. Don't laugh but it's in the living room and I'll leave the TV on for them sometimes. If your dog is small enough to fit in one, you could try leaving him in a play pen with a crate inside with the door open so he can go in if he wants. Or you could leave a crate in kitchen, same deal. You may find he is more inclined to chill out in there than you think, especially if you don't "force" him in it.


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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unless he has a fear, or an aversion to his crate, I would use it. Dogs are den animals and really prefer to be closed in or protected on their sides, thus they like the couch, or a chair if they fit.

Make sure he has a blanket and comfy stuff, also give him whatever his favorite chew, kong, pasttime toy is to occupy his brain.

I have a lab who I still crate during the day, because she likes to get into everything, and she has a urinary issue where she leaks, and if she had free reign she would leak on our bed or furniture. Her blankets are rotated and washed, and she gets a new knuckle bone about every 10 days so she has something to entertain her, we also have a few puzzle toys that we throw in to keep her entertained, plus she likes to look outside, so her crate faces the windows, and a bird feeder to watch them come and go.

Honestly she spends the majority of the day sleeping. She likes her crate.
I had an alpha Dane and never got her to take to a crate, she would loose her mind when we put her in one, even at 2 years old, so we confined her during the day, she had her own couch, spoiled much? and she had access to water, and could look outside, but wasn't able to get on beds or other furniture.

I am guessing at 11 he spends the majority of his days sleeping so whatever his happy sleep spot is, a bed, a crate, whatever, I would limit his area to that.


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Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My dog is rather large. He is an Afghan Hound, a rather large one. Think almost the size of a Great Dane...

Kenneling would be a no-go b/c he would be really cramped no matter how big the crate...

OK sounds like I have it figured out as far as the couches go...

I will make his apt (copied idea fr. you ThoughtIKnewYa) in the kitchen since he is too big for a kennel. So that problem is pretty much solved. You guys helped me realize that putting him in his own apt is not as bad as I first thougth. No, he will hate it but it is 1000 times better than where he came from!

Next issue...
CATS that claw furniture...OMG I am sooo screwed!


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