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User Topic: Question for All dog owners, please please answer. Thank you
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

CATS that claw furniture...OMG I am sooo screwed!
I don't believe in declaying, but I love, love, LOVE these things!
Soft Claws. They're nail covers that you glue onto your cat's claws so they don't destroy your furniture.
Works like a charm!!
http://www.amazon.com/Soft-Claws-Cats-System-Medium/dp/B0006343W2/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1387305928&sr=8-1&keywords=soft+tips+cat+claws


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


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Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

GB, I have heard of them before but I always thought they are "inhumane" b/c it prevents the cats from scratching which is in their nature...

I think I am staring to realize that I am putting (wrongly) my pets before my needs. That is a BIG problem...


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our cats fairly destroyed our old set of furniture. Granted, the couches were old and worn, but still usable prior to the cats using them as scratching posts. When we moved, I wanted new stuff, but also didn't want the furniture to end up shredded again. We needed a solution and declawing simply wasn't an option. I think its incredibly cruel to cut off the equivalent of what would be the first joint portion of a human finger. A friend suggested the nail caps and we tried them. It is easier if you start using the Soft Claws when they're young, but they do get used to them.

My cats don't seem to be bothered or impaired by the nail caps. They have no issues chasing each other (or the dogs) and climbing. They still paw and "claw" (make the motions), but they simply don't shred the couch, carpet, or curtains.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 1:07 PM, December 17th (Tuesday)]


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6440 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

GB, I could just copy and quote your entire response! Thank you!

Yes, my couches were old too. BUT! They were OK enought but the cats destroyed them!

Now I am getting new ones (hence my original post about the dog and his peeing). As I was working through this problem w/ everyone here on SI, I came to a GREAT solution for my doggie. BUT THEN>>> I realized that I have cats! OMG! My cats!

Now that the issue w/ the dog is resloved I am trying to figure out how to keep the cats from destroying new furniture!

I will definately do the claws covers. I agree w/ you about not doing the declawing so I was getting pretty desparate. I think locking them into a room, even w/ a view, would not work for the cats. They love their freedom although they are not ever outside. So they roam free IN the house... Of course there is the always present possibility of my male fixed cat spraying....

Gosh, remind me again why I have pets?!

[This message edited by Exit Wounds at 1:17 PM, December 17th (Tuesday)]


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our pets are indoor as well, so I understand about not wanting to restrict their freedom indoors. But we also have to temper the possible destruction of property too!

As to why we have pets?
On some really bad days I ask myself that same question!! Then five minutes later, one of those lovely little bundles of insanity will do something so cute or so funny it lifts my spirits. My home simply isn't "home" without my four legged babies.


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6440 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((GabyBaby & FluffyBabies)))))

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Spirit13
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just wanted to say that I used the "Soft Claws" on one of my cats twice and it was disastrous.

I tried them twice a couple years apart.

One time, she got one of the "claws" stuck in our berber carpet and she couldn't move. Because there is a little overlap of the plastic and the actual claw there is a kind of a hook action. The carpet had her and she could NOT get free. She then twisted herself over and over before I could get to her and I was only 10 feet away (saw it right away). She was in a lot of pain and it ended up pulling off almost her whole nail. Horrible.

The other time (and yes - you would think I would learn but I was thinking I could put them on better/more carefully years later) She was batting at a mini-blind cord She got her claw caught in a small opening in the fabric of the cord (it was braided) and then same thing - it couldn't back out because of the hooking action. She then pulled back on it which activated the blind. The blind then went down which pulled her up by her front leg. This scared her so bad that she peed all over my desk. I did not see this happen, but came home to her hanging on my window by one leg. It's funny - but it's not because I have no idea how long she hung there and she could have been killed! Plus I had cat pee all over my desk.

So.... no more Soft Claws for my kitties.


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Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So...Spirit, thank you for sharing this w/ us but I am curious...What are you doing now? Living w/ clawed furniture?

ETA, Sorry but you made me laugh....

[This message edited by Exit Wounds at 1:40 PM, December 17th (Tuesday)]


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my!
Fortunately, I've never had that happen with our cats. I would be completely put off if that HAD happened though. Poor kitty!


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6440 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

EW they do make crates large enough for Danes and mastiffs and other giant breeds. I have 2.

Me thinks you have more of an issue with the idea of crating than your pup would. As long as they can get up and turn around its big enough. My lab now and other dogs ive owned have found their crate to be their bed and den and often get in it to sleep feel safe in storms and to get away from the chaos of toddlers (when my kids were small).


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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Next issue...
CATS that claw furniture...OMG I am sooo screwed!

And after that-- "OMG! My friend/sister/cousin brought over their toddler and red kool aid!"

I have resigned myself to never having nice furniture because of my DD and my 2 dogs (who are just dogs and do dog things).


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know you said your dog issue was solved but I didn't see one particular solution mentioned that I personally love and use myself. I work with rescue and foster and often times dogs to come in having been kenneled literally their whole lives. We do try not to kennel these dogs and belly bands are a must while trying to house train them.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00B90DTI0/ref=mp_s_a_1_sc_2?qid=1387326713&sr=8-2-spell&pi=AC_SX110_SY165_QL70

These are called the belly bands or maleincontinence wraps. They Velcro around the dog and work best when you put an incontinence pad like a poise pad in them. I also have six dogs, several intact males and they love to occasionally get into marking contests especially if someone is in season. This takes care of the problem.

Also, the marking of the bed is very normal. I find even my girls will occasionally mark beds especially if a new dog is around or the bed is new or freshly washed. It's like they're reclaiming it.

The soft claws… I will never use them again. I bought them thinking they would be wonderful for protecting my wood floors and leather furniture. Four of my dogs are around 15 to 17 pounds. They like to lay around on the furniture. I bought these and put them on. The first few days they seemed fine but as the nails begin to grow out that ridge where the soft claw ends closest to the dogs paw forms sort of a shelf. Several times while scratching around the head and neck area with a hindfoot, the claw got caught in a loop of hair. Thankfully I was home both times to free them because they were yelping and struggling to get free and it was very painful. It got worse and worse as they grew out and I had to get someone to help me hold them down to remove the remaining soft claws from their nails. That was nearly impossible! I can't even imagine trying to hold a cat still.

[This message edited by debbysbaby at 7:18 PM, December 17th (Tuesday)]


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EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll leave the TV on for them sometimes

I use to do that....but I made sure it was an animal channel.

As for the kitchen apartment....is that room big enough for you to put a love-seat in? I just read about the size of your dog. My mom has an old Great Dane and joint pain is a real issue for her. It is really difficult for her to get up from the ground. However, the couch (her level) is much easier because she can just roll-off it, etc.

I know you said your dog is older - is she having any bone issues (back, hips, etc)?


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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

EK,
is she having any bone issues (back, hips, etc)?

I can't tell. He doesn't look like he is in pain but I am not sure.
My kitchen is not big enought to fit a couch into but that does make sense about a larger dog having a hard time getting off the ground rather than off the bed... Hmm...

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

EW we had an old couch for my Dane and she loved it, but it got stinky, and was nasty so we threw it out, and got her her very own queen sized futon for her elder years. It was quite nice, faux suede, it was in the corner of our bedroom, and both her and the golden would sleep on it during the day, My Dane was alpha though, so no one was allowed on it, until she was up and in her comfy spot, then the golden would come in and take whatever space was left. LOL.

Perhaps a different room in the house for her, so you can provide her something like this if she has old achey bones? If not a nice bed will do too.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am going to find something that is elevated for him VERY GOOD POINT!

Thanks


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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Look at Kuranda Beds. My GSD loves hers. I bought one that has the option of the shorter legs for inside her crate. She is happy to lay in there with the door open when we are home and is crated at night and when we leave.

I love it because she can't chew it and it's easy to clean.

ETA: they are expensive but they have tons of them on ebay.

[This message edited by knightsbff at 9:04 AM, December 18th (Wednesday)]


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Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bff, I will check into it! Thanks

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Spirit13
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

EW,

My cats aren't into clawing furniture. They do claw the carpeting. Honestly, I trim their claws a LOT. It took a long time, but they both are really good about letting me flip them upside down and clipping their nails very quickly. Patience, persistence and taking your time along with rewards really helps on this. That is the #1 thing I do and keeping clippers all over my house so I can grab them and do it whenever the thought siezes me. It truly just takes a minute when they are good about it.

I also have a lot of those cheap cardboard sharpener things in any areas where they liked to claw. I have posts - buy mine like cardboard better. One will occasionally scratch a couch if he has been chased recently by a dog or scolded... so I will yell at him if I hear/see it and he runs away. He does know he isn't supposed to do it. There isn't much damage though because I keep his claws very short. (Note: I tried soft claws on him too but he was very determined and chewed every single one off within an hour, multiple times. He's just that kind of cat - very particular about his paws.)

The reality of cat ownership is that you can probably reduce their scratching with the things above but not completely eliminate it with effort and persistence. The foil and tape will also help. It's going to take a multi faceted approach.


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