Had a rough MC today, basically I am just suppose to wait until he's ready to give me what I need.
My favorite saying that I got from SI:
You can lead a horse to the water, shove his face in it and try and force him to drink BUT you will just wind up getting kicked in the face!!!
You can't force people to look into the darkest spots within themselves. They have to want to do that for themselves. I think when they actually do this on their own terms that is when R is really possible. But Oh the waiting game. Its enough to drive you crazy.
I am very thankful my husband is there now, it took a long time...28 months post day. And the result is an incredible level of emotional and physical intimacy.
Thank you for sharing your insight and hope.
The waiting is paying off, hope our progress can continue.
We are worth it.
Update-Sexting on cheating forums 14 YEARS. Idiot me
Point is, this story demonstrates an amazing self-awareness and the result of countless days, months, years of work. I just want to acknowledge this holiday season how amazing you, me, our spouses, and everyone on SI are. Your story reminded me of a lot of strategies that are helpful to me (not marinating in painful thoughts etc.).
So, thanks. I'm going to rest my mind on the joy I take in my family today, and enjoy my two ridiculously over-excited boys!