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User Topic: if this isn't a nb, then I don't know what is!!
dignityintact
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Wink  Posted: 12:32 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's the evening of the 17th in the UK…I've just looked at the calendar for dates coming up, and spotted by today's date "3 years"…..yes, today is the day my "delightful" ex had the kids and I to move out (week before Xmas, I know)……it's my antiversary, and I didn't even realise it!!

If this isn't a NB then I'm not sure what is!! I'm happy every day….I still need to divorce the idiot, but next year that will happen…..what will be will be.

He's still with the OW, and I'm actually happy that she now has to deal with NPD and not I….silver linings!!


"Sometimes on the way to the dream, you get a lost and find a better one"

Divorcing - at last!


Posts: 93 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Uk
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FABULOUS nb! Well done, dignity.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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ISPIFFD
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's such a wonderful feeling, isn't it? To realize you missed the antiversary because it doesn't monopolize your mind anymore and you're beyond all that?!

I think the day you realize you didn't remember your antiversary should have its own name, like the It'sOfficialINoLongerFuckingCareVersary


Me: BW (54)
Him: WH (61)
7/14/11 - Divorced

Posts: 1804 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: another world
suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you, my friend! My dday was right around this time 3 years ago too. I don't even remember that first Christmas as I was in such a flurry of pain.

It's nice to see the light and smile every day now too and, although I still sometimes get sad, I too am glad that OW - who he is also still with -gets to deal with him in all his glory. I, on the other hand, get to be in charge of my own house, my own money, and my own destiny. She gets to deal with his laziness, his passive aggressive behavior, his disrespect, his talent of lying by omission, his under the breath insults, his crazy-ass mentally ill family members, his alcohol problems, his horrible gift giving, and his shoddy parenting skills. Oh, and best of all, she gets his ego that is bigger than life and that which prevents him from EVER being wrong.

Have fun with that Slutty McPiggerson!


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2699 | Registered: Jan 2011
dignityintact
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you are all so great!!
Yes, it's a wonderful feeling…time is really such a great healer.

The best bit too is I don't have a new SO either! I'm just happy with me…I'd love to meet someone, and have tried OLD, but really, right at this time, life is good

ExWH doesn't really bother me anymore either - he may message me about the kids, and I respond politely, without a care in the world!! It was a long, hard process, but I got there…and next year is going to be even better!!


"Sometimes on the way to the dream, you get a lost and find a better one"

Divorcing - at last!


Posts: 93 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Uk
PhoenixRisen
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YES!

awesome NB!

I worked so hard not to affiliate any date to DD, S or D... it was hard but I have a ballpark month instead to help me when the antiversary roles around. Can't wait to be in your shoes!


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kernel
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Way to go, dignity! It's such a great feeling!

It'sOfficialINoLongerFuckingCareVersary

Funny, ISPIFFD!


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

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