Topic: hit the wall
|Helen of Troy|
Member # 26419
| Posted: 6:33 PM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013|
SI I've hit the wall, my breaking point. No more. I am taking the needed steps to heal and feel ok again. One is to get on ADs, and more will post about later if successful. Living like this is not honoring or loving myself. I took on too much and maxed out. Ok now and have a healthy plan. :)
If you feel badly for too long, ask for help.There's no shame in that. No one can carry the world on their back for too long.
Posts: 4604 | Registered: Dec 2009
Member # 31528
| Posted: 6:38 PM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013|
Posts: 30576 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 33226
| Posted: 6:39 PM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013|
So glad you are taking these steps and making your self-care a priority, HoT. Hope you start to feel an improvement soon. (((((hugs)))))
You can call me NIK
There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox
Posts: 22550 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 28622
| Posted: 8:14 PM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013|
I look forward to positive updates! You are doing the exact right thing - taking care of you.
I hope you feel better soon.
Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 12 DS 9
Posts: 5288 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Member # 11089
| Posted: 12:57 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
Good for you!!!!! Wishing you all the strength you need!
3 beautiful boys (20,19 & 15)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
Divorce final 3/27/2013
Posts: 1085 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Pennsylvania
Member # 7767
| Posted: 1:34 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
Recognizing you need help is the most important step.
Sending you strength and peace.
Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.
Posts: 7557 | Registered: Aug 2005
Member # 38122
| Posted: 3:35 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
I'm glad you're starting to take care of yourself, Helen. Please keep doing that.
Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 10 and 13
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
Posts: 1344 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
Member # 20849
| Posted: 5:39 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
If you feel badly for too long, ask for help.There's no shame in that. No one can carry the world on their back for too long.Plus, if we never ask anyone else for help, people would be out of jobs and no one else would ever get the chance to help another. Sometimes we are the helper, sometimes we are the helpee. It's all good.
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
Posts: 14900 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
Member # 41608
| Posted: 7:01 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
((HoT)) Taking care of yourself is the most important thing. I started on ADs on Monday. I wish I had started right after DD. I already feel way more calm and in control. Asking for help is not a weakness. We all need help at times.
Married 13 years
DD #1 03/12
DD #2 11/20/13
Status: Separated and planning D
Nowhere left to go but up!
Posts: 101 | Registered: Dec 2013
Member # 30341
| Posted: 9:42 AM, December 20th (Friday), 2013|
(((Helen of Troy)))
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Posts: 2823 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
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