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User Topic: hit the wall
Helen of Troy
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Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SI I've hit the wall, my breaking point. No more. I am taking the needed steps to heal and feel ok again. One is to get on ADs, and more will post about later if successful. Living like this is not honoring or loving myself. I took on too much and maxed out. Ok now and have a healthy plan. :)
If you feel badly for too long, ask for help.There's no shame in that. No one can carry the world on their back for too long.



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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Helen)))

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad you are taking these steps and making your self-care a priority, HoT. Hope you start to feel an improvement soon. (((((hugs)))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hugs)))

I look forward to positive updates! You are doing the exact right thing - taking care of you.

I hope you feel better soon.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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veelop5
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you!!!!! Wishing you all the strength you need!


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XH-40
3 beautiful boys (20,19 & 15)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
Divorce final 3/27/2013

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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Recognizing you need help is the most important step.

Sending you strength and peace.

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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Pass
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad you're starting to take care of yourself, Helen. Please keep doing that.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you feel badly for too long, ask for help.There's no shame in that. No one can carry the world on their back for too long.
Plus, if we never ask anyone else for help, people would be out of jobs and no one else would ever get the chance to help another. Sometimes we are the helper, sometimes we are the helpee. It's all good.


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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NotFixable
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((HoT)) Taking care of yourself is the most important thing. I started on ADs on Monday. I wish I had started right after DD. I already feel way more calm and in control. Asking for help is not a weakness. We all need help at times.


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DD #1 03/12
DD #2 11/20/13
Status: Separated and planning D
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Nowhere left to go but up!


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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Helen of Troy)))


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Divorced

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