Topic: My mom is dying
Member # 30826
| Posted: 1:22 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
She told me the day after Thanksgiving.
Stage 4 lung cancer. Small cell carcinoma.
Im not sure what Im looking for. Prayers? Hugs? Support? Advice? Medical opinions? A miracle? Please?
M: June 2001
Status: Happily Reconciled.
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Posts: 7321 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Member # 18449
| Posted: 1:25 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
Posts: 11605 | Registered: Mar 2008
Member # 14003
| Posted: 1:40 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
I am so sorry hun. You are in my prayers.
I'm sorry if you don't like my Honesty, but to be fair I don't like your lies.
Sometimes it's better to push someone away...not because you stopped loving them but because you can't take the pain anymore.
Posts: 13726 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
Member # 34823
| Posted: 1:43 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
I'm so sorry, C6.
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Posts: 7944 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Member # 33226
| Posted: 1:44 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
(((((((confused & mom))))))) Oh, honey.
Sending you and your mom everything I've got.
You can call me NIK
"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
Posts: 25062 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 17460
| Posted: 1:50 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
That's the same form my mom had.
Best advice I can give you is become her health advocate, weighing each procedure and proposed treatment very carefully.
She'll need someone in her corner.
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!
Posts: 21041 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
Member # 31349
| Posted: 2:40 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
I'm so deeply sorry.
Sending hugs and prayers. We've been through something very similar (swap lung for gastric). Please PM me anytime.
It is better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie. -Russian Proverb
Posts: 17076 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 30024
| Posted: 2:42 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
((((confused)))) I am so sorry. Hugs and SI mojo to you both.
BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
Posts: 9544 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Member # 31528
| Posted: 2:54 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
(((confused & mom)))
I'm so sorry. Saying prayers.
Posts: 34755 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 33338
| Posted: 2:59 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
I'm so sorry.
Hugs and prayers, Sweet friend.
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.
Posts: 2710 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
Member # 14866
| Posted: 3:04 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
(((confused and mom)))
Sending along my prayers to you and your mother.
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
Posts: 51951 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 21281
| Posted: 3:17 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
I am so sorry, it took my dad too
What I can tell you, my dad was 72 when diagnosed, July 13 was day of diagnosis Aug 26 he passed, it was fast for him, he received radiation treatments to alleviate pain, and pain medication nothing for life prolonging procedures as nothing would have helped
I agree with AJ's mom, be her advocate, let her wishes be heard, my biggest concern with my dad became him not being in any pain, I couldn't bare to see him suffer
I spent as much time as I could with my dad, I was lucky that I could, I had known others with this form of cancer and they didn't last long, time with my dad became precious
You and your family are in my prayers,
Posts: 375 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 28622
| Posted: 3:22 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
Posts: 5776 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Member # 32554
| Posted: 3:24 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
(((HUGS))) I'm sorry. I lost my sister to the same cancer. I hate cancer.
Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
Posts: 9538 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 41463
| Posted: 3:36 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
Sending prayers for you and your mom. ((((Hugs)))))
Posts: 132 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: United States
Member # 35846
| Posted: 3:39 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
I am so sorry. It must be frightening for you.
(((Hugs and strength.)))
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
We have R'd
Posts: 3793 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 15162
| Posted: 3:46 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12
The people you do your life with shape the life you live
Posts: 36972 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
Member # 20563
| Posted: 3:47 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
(((((((((((((((((Confused and Mom))))))))))))))))))))))
Just be there to listen. Write down stories, video or photograph as appropriate. Wish I had more video of my Mom.
Praying for a miracle for the two of you
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
Posts: 6548 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
Member # 25341
| Posted: 3:48 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
I'm so sorry to hear this news.
Make the most of whatever time you have left together with her. This is such a difficult thing to go through, but it is a gift that you know now and can plan for the end (should this be the end).
Thinking of you and sending you and your mom strength.
Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...
Posts: 2559 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Member # 31722
| Posted: 4:48 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013|
I am so sorry, confused.
Just spend all the time with her that you can.
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