First Christmas post d day for me. WW is getting nothing. I told her that a month ago and that I also want nothing. We will each fill our stocking to keep the dream alive for DD and DS (if he still believes).

A few months ago I was having a really bad day and my coworkers/fellow BS member told me to get WW a gift to help. Bahahaha, I did! I am still here and did not kick her arse to the curb like I probably should have. Maybe next year?

This year...he has gifts that he picked out himself...not very many...mostly clothes.

[This message edited by heartbroken2012 at 3:35 PM, December 19th (Thursday)]

Married 27 years. Together 29.

3 children 24, 21, 14

OW sex addict and romance addict according to MC.

So far each of the kids wants to get him a gift card, so I guess that's what he's getting here.

This year (after Dday2) he's getting a book and a travel coffee mug.

I haven't known a minutes peace for three weeks now, his remorse and begging for forgiveness is just not penetrating my brain or my heart.

That was the beginning of mean old me "not being sensitive to H's needs". Glad I put the effort into helping my dad. He was a much kinder and better man than H, who started the A he felt entitled to, only 2 weeks after Dad died. Asshole.

Anyhow... I decided to make the book this year, so if I move out he will have it to remember his life with my ILs, who were good people and would have been appalled at H's asshattery.

[This message edited by brokendancer7 at 4:28 PM, December 19th (Thursday)]

I got a pair of boots, a season of Animaniacs and an iPod I made him return because I had one, just older. He never used the money to buy me something different.

He also, at some point, managed to text xOw2. The A was still happening. Through Christmas, New Years, him leaving for Iraq, our 13th anniversary and Valentine's Day. In fact it was late March before he sent a NC letter because she had his car and he was afraid of what she would do.

So Christmas was hard for me. Still is.

OTOH- he said it was the best Christmas ever and he could see how much I loved him.

Then why sneak off to text her and continue the A? It never makes sense.

The next time I saw it around he house, I "retrieved" and kept it. He either didn't notice or doesn't miss it because he hasn't said one word about it to me.

This year, my gift to him is his freedom…to be someone else's problem.

Inside the Christmas card I wrote a message something along to the lines of, "For your gift this year I am giving you your freedom to be with Trixie the Wunderslut. Please pick up the divorce papers at my lawyers office at [address]. Merry Christmas."

The most amusing part in it is that he acted as if he had not seen a thing!

I did, however, take his daughter (my stepchild) shopping for a present for him. I have no recollection of that gift.

me: 48
him: 51
4 kiddos in lower 20's

“Slide the weight from your shoulders and move forward. You are afraid you might forget, but you never will. You will forgive and remember."

This Christmas? So far I have picked up a dark chocolate bar for his stocking -

We are working on reconcilliation but I am not planning to do anything big or touchy/feely for him. I'm just not there.

With that.... because I DO still monitor his email and credit card I know there have been two gift certificates purchased for a certain clothing store AND a pair of earrings purchased. Can ya'll guess what will happen should *I* not receive those things?