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User Topic: What did/is WS getting on the first post d day xmas?
Dare2Trust
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Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Plainpain,

Can I ask: WHY?

This year (after Dday2) he's getting a book and a travel coffee mug.


Me BS 59
WH 58
Married 19 years
D-Day Nov 3, 2005
Child: Adopted Daughter 21 College Student now

I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.


Posts: 6113 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Texas
brkn_heartd
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First Christmas after Dday, he got a football jersey. The family wouldn't have understood why he wouldn't have received anything. It was simple and brainless. I think he was happy to receive anything...more because I thought of him. Not the value of it. He still has that jersey. I barely remember that Christmas.


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1566 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
cuppacoffee
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I bought him a new bed. He has bitched about our bed for 3 years so I got us a new one.

I have no idea what he's getting me. He can't give me what I want so it doesn't matter.


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 360 | Registered: May 2013
heforgotme
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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nothing. And I didn't get him anything either. We were both zombies at that point and I was just grateful that I could manage to put some sort of Christmas together for the kids.

This year is our second, so I don't know yet. He has always been a run out the night before so I don't get in trouble type of present buyer, so I am not setting the bar too high.

We shall see. He knows holidays are important to me, so maybe.......


D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry

Posts: 1076 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: FL
badmedicine
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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's getting a lump of coal. Someone has been very naughty (with an emphasis on HO HO HO).


"The wishbone will never replace the backbone." -Will Henry
"This wasn't just plain terrible, this was fancy terrible. This was terrible with raisins in it." -Dorothy Parker

Posts: 204 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States
BrokenMomof2
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Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got him a Keurig coffee maker.

I bought it before d-day, I thought about returning it but I wanted one too.
Not sure what he got me, but the presents are piling up under the tree


Me: BS, 30
Him: WH, 31, 1 month EA & PA
Married 9 years
Kids: 2 perfect boys
D-day: Nov 3, 2013
Working on R

Posts: 86 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: ND
plainpain
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Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@Dare2Trust:

Can I ask: WHY?

I guess that sounds like I'm sending him on a trip, doesn't it? We're still in R.

The book is a 3 volume set he's been wanting for a long time. The travel mug is because we don't have any currently that have lids, and that's what he asked me to buy him. Oh, and I bought him a bag of Bridge Mix.

He actually said he doesn't want me to get anything for him at all. I'm kind of ok with that. We're in a 'good place', I guess, but I'm really not feeling like lavishing him. My heart is still skiddish.


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 805 | Registered: Jul 2013
Gotmegood
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Default  Posted: 1:27 AM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH is getting a book. How to Help Your Spouse Recover from Your Affair , in the mail, cuz I've separated from him. Ordered it from Amazon today. Maybe it'll help? Sick of dragging that bus up a hill.....spelling out what I want and need. What I really need is an Instigator of healing and communication, not just a Responder We shall see


Me: faithful wife 62.
Him: WH 64 , prostitute 20 yr old
DDay: 8-13-2013
Status: boinging up and down like a yo-yo

Posts: 445 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Florida
lostinthesouth
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Default  Posted: 1:46 AM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Almost 4 months from dday--he is getting nothing and I want absolutely nothing from him. Even told my 21yr old I would give her the money to take her little(10 & 8)sisters out to get my gift because I dont want him participating in that either. His gift is he is still in the house and not living on the street

Brokemomof2

I got him a Keurig coffee maker.

I would change the tag "to me from Santa" lol


Posts: 101 | Registered: Nov 2013
makes me mad
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Default  Posted: 3:55 AM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Gajit
He's getting my middle finger way up in the air!!

Nearly wet myself laughing at this one, (hugs)


Posts: 103 | Registered: May 2011 | From: UK
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 5:56 AM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can ya'll guess what will happen should *I* not receive those things?

He will be getting his balls on a platter for Christmas....just a guess.


ďAnd the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossomĒ
AnaÔs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3793 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
myowndystopia
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Default  Posted: 7:01 AM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok so maybe I'm going a little passive aggressive on this but he's getting a "happy" themed gift. We are a little over 2 months in this and i get the excuse- I'm not happy, haven't been happy for a while so
Movies with happy in the title (pursuit of happiness, happy Gilmore), books with happy in the title and maybe some wall art with sayings about "happy". Working on this little happy gift this weekend! Maybe he will find new ways to get that happy back that don't include his honey bunny slut!


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
broken <3
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Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Last year I was pregnant and we were moving. I got him sweet fuck all! It was a gong show just trying to move! He was being a dick and dragging his heels. It was so embarrassing as my parents had to intervene to get us out of our rental in time!!! I begged him to pack on the weekends - I have him 3 months notice that I wanted to move too but he just refused and quite frankly threw a fit over it!
The nerve!
This year he bought a toy online with my blessing - that is until I saw it was 2.5 time more expensive than I thought.... I have no energy for this little man child! :(
Bah humbug!


Me - BS mother of 15 month old identical twin girls (conceived during HB)
Him - serial cheater
R? Still not sure if this is a deal breaker...

Posts: 459 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: West coast Canada
Coachdig10
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WW spent last Christmas texting her OM, so it kind of ruins Christmas for me. However, I am going to get her something nice, like I always do.


BS- 42
WS- 36
Married 16
Kids- 3
DDay 1/17/13

Posts: 52 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: California
NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Herpes, I can only hope.

I'm no longer with him. I left his sorry ass.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1701 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
Jesu
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nothing. I don't think she's getting me anything either


Me: BSO 39
Her: WSO 29
Together: 9 years
Married?: No
Children?: No
OM: A friend of a friend
DD#1: June 18th 2012
Many more DD after TT
PA#1: 1 week in Nov/Dec 2010, which led to a long distance EA
R: ?

Posts: 608 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Oz
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've struggled with this. It's the first Christmas since DDay and we are in hellish limbo. His A is still going on and it's just brutal around here.

Anyhoo...

He had picked out his own "big" gift already...had pre-ordered it, in fact and then said, "hey...I know what I want for Christmas!". So he is getting that from me and the kids. The kids each like to pick something out for him. From me, he is getting a pair of leather gloves (because he asked for a pair and I'm having a hard time coming up with anything on my own in this moment), and candy and some odds and ends in his stocking.

As a family we have always really enjoyed Christmas, the kids don't know any of this is going on...so we are doing our best to keep up appearances....


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1832 | Registered: Aug 2013
RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Besides the extremely pissed off, raging wife?

Let's see...A huge Amex bill.

[This message edited by RidingHealingRd at 11:25 PM, December 20th (Friday)]


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


Posts: 2109 | Registered: Nov 2011
MammaMia
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Default  Posted: 11:42 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Since he likes to build Xmas villages during the Holidays, I have been buying him figurines and different buildings for the last few years. He's got some collection thanks to me!!

[This message edited by MammaMia at 11:42 PM, December 20th (Friday)]


And once the storm is over, you wonít remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive.But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you wonít be the same person who walked in. Thatís what this stormís all about.Ē

Posts: 859 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Somewhere in the South
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 11:52 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nothing. This is the first Christmas post DDay and we are now divorced. He's no longer my problem.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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