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User Topic: Thank goodness I'm not crazy!!
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Staring blankly is perfectly ok, honey. If you do anything, do something for you. Go for a walk? Hot shower? Cup of tea?

Another option is to do some busy work - laundry, dishes, sweeping, etc. It will distract without too much mental effort involved. When I was in a similar spot, I played solitaire on my phone until the battery died. Mindless and yet distracting.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will have to walk my dog later, so I will be forced to leave the house some time anyway. I tried to keep busy with mindless things for the past week and a half when my spidey senses were going crazy, when I was trying to fix the problem I thought I had caused with the situation with my friend. Right now, even that's a trigger, and I am not even in the mood for that.

I scheduled an IC appointment for Monday. I don't even know what they're going to tell me, other than what I already know.

I just want to be at peace and for my mind to forget the existence of WSO. I wish I never met him.

Seriously, back to w.t.f....

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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I watch movies at times like this--something mindless, like scifi.

I'm not the winner, I'm the prize.

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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have done all that you could do and there should be no expectation from anyone for you to do any more. You loved with your whole heart and unfortunately he didn't have the maturity or common decency to appreciate the jewel he had. So now, use the strength, resolve and character you have developed as a result of his callous treatment and remove the "I'm a fool" statement in your tagline because you are anything but a fool. (((((NoReGrets)))))

There's a difference between giving up and knowing when you've had enough.

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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For the better part of the day, I have just been too numb to be able to process anything. Now I might have 0.04% of my brain back, and I have a question.

Why the hell come back? Why come back and do this AGAIN?? Why couldn't I just be left alone after 10 months? Why go through all the work of pretending to R, yet again, just to mess around again?


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Default  Posted: 1:01 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had an ex do this to me, too. I broke up with him because he was being an ass (much later found out he was cheating). We remained friends for a year, then he started pursuing me again and we got back together. Later found out he cheated on me pretty much the entire time. Never understood the point of it.

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover-Mark Twain

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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hugs))) I'm so sorry. I am glad that you found out. Now you can close the door and start to truly take your life back and live it well, without having someone actively trying to push you off of that path.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

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