Last night my fWH asked me if he should take Monday and Tuesday before Christmas off as holiday in order to help get everything ready for Christmas. What??!! He's never done that before, it's always been left to me to do it all. So I replied that it would have been so nice if he'd offered to do that years age (during his LTA) and I had 3/4 kids at home when I could really have done with some help and this year as the kids no longer live at home it was pretty much sorted.
He went very quiet, I think it really sunk in as he was pretty restless before going to sleep. I felt a bit guilty coming back with an unpleasant comment like that after a genuine offer of help.
But I couldn't help remembering an e-mail Christmas eve a few years ago when he told fOW that 'Christmas was all sorted' and why don't they meet up. Fact that I was up to my elbows in cooking, wrapping and dealing with overexcited children seemed to pass him by. He went out supposedly to do some last-minute Christmas shopping. And I wonder how many other last-minute shopping trips weren't what they seemed, but honestly can't be bothered to go there with him now. B*******! Grrrrr!