...is a lesson for everyone. It can be a matter of patience. Just because the "great chemistry" isn't an instant reaction some people think that it won't come at all.
How long do you wait to see if there is chemistry/attraction? And is it different in an OLD situation than in a meeting in real life first situation (I'd say yes to that.)
I'm currently on a dating hiatus, but I went on about 30 first dates over the past 18 months or so. I was attracted to maybe 5 of those and felt amazing chemistry with one. Most of the guys were interested in second dates, but I only went on maybe 5-10 second dates and nothing changed then.
The last guy before my hiatus -- I went on about 6-8 dates with him over a two month period. I wasn't feeling any chemistry, but was heeding the advice here (general here, not this thread, obviously) to be patient. But then he was getting antsy to get physical and the thought of doing anything like that with him made me want to vomit, so I broke things off.
How much time do you give it? Would you want to continue dating someone who didn't find you attractive? (I actually did have a couple of guys beg me to go on pity second dates with them...ugh)
I think I need to change my dating wiring as well, which is part of the reason for my hiatus.Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo