If you decide to go ahead, you may want to take it slow.
Are you comfortable dating someone who is in OW's social circle?
It's really a strange situation. My ex pursued his OW on Facebook. My friend is a mutual friend of her and I, but not him. He saw that I changed my name and noticed that they were going back and forth on each others pages and put 2 and 2 together and asked me about it. I told him what happened and he was mortified. He said he had been wanting to introduce me to this guy for awhile.
I know it's tough and unfair and we all pretty much think we're ready to date before we really are.
I look back at some of the stuff that I journaled when I was first starting to date, and it's so apparent to me now that I was nowhere near ready then. I'm just lucky that I didn't hurt anyone else or myself before I realized it and took time off.
I hope that you take some time to yourself without dating and heal even more. Very few people (including myself) take enough time, but what's the rush? Broken attracts broken (and I'd submit a guy who texts "Good morning beautiful" after one date has some issues) and I'd hate to see you slide right into another bad relationship.
Married: 11 years, no kids
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo
I can easily see having casual (and fun!) relationships with date nights and kissing....but long term? I don't want another decade to go by with someone only to have it blow up in my face.
One of my BFFs told me that I'll know when I am willing to risk rather than play it safe.
And, yes, mof2, I agree with the other posters - if you're questioning if you're ready, you probably aren't, and there's no harm in taking some time to yourself anyway. It takes time to learn to trust yourself again, and you need to do that before you have any hope of trusting someone else.
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling