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User Topic: I am in the One Percent?
Ladyogilvy
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH will never tell the whole truth about the things he did before he got sober. We're going on 3 years. It's probably too late now. Even if he told me everything today, I probably wouldn't believe him. He's proven how good at lying and keeping secrets he is. I doubt I'll ever trust him. The best we could do now is eliminate situations in which he could do something behind my back but that's not realistic. We're going on 3 years. Does your WH really want to live with the repercussions of being a good liar and keeping secrets? Remorse and transparency are more important than I can put into words. All I can think of to say is that lies and secrets are as damaging as the sex.


Me: BW a youthful 49
Him: alcoholic, sober now, WH 56
Married 19 years
Two sons, 16 & 17 years old
DD? He's still keeping secrets and only admits to what I have indisputable
evidence of... the $2000 earrings he bought her for x-mas.

Posts: 1512 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: California
sideblinded
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Member # 41475
Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am on the same page as those of you who think my H is getting more nervous about what else I might be finding about his activities, which is why he's started hovering. This newfound interest of his of is out of character and another red flag. If only he knew how many hours I've spent on this website!!

Ladyogilvy:

lies and secrets are as damaging as the sex.
Truer words were never spoken.


Me: BS, 56
Him: WH, 51, possible SA.
3 kids, 19, 17, 15
M 21 yrs.

Posts: 59 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Midwest
cl131716
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Member # 40699
Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This newfound interest of his of is out of character and another red flag. If only he knew how many hours I've spent on this website!!

My Wh does know, or at least has an idea, and he hates it. He thinks this site fills my head with ideas and causes me to obsess.


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
Scubachick
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Member # 39906
Default  Posted: 12:10 AM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My Wh does know, or at least has an idea, and he hates it. He thinks this site fills my head with ideas and causes me to obsess.

My husband tells me the same thing!! He said I read too much and need to stop watching shows like, wives with knives!

He also tried to convince me that he is part of the 1%.


Posts: 642 | Registered: Jul 2013
cl131716
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Member # 40699
Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband tells me the same thing!! He said I read too much and need to stop watching shows like, wives with knives!

He also tried to convince me that he is part of the 1%.

Oh yes! I have heard that as well! I also hear "You analyze too much, you read into it too much, you think too much." Since when was using your brain a bad thing???


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
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