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User Topic: Divorce vs Mediation
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have heard, from a friend who went through mediation first, that mediation does not work if there is any chance that there are hidden accounts. Also, that mediation, didn't work for her, because she was bullied during the process by her x. She is now using an attorney. I retained my lawyer for $3k yesterday, paid for her out of the joint account. She recommended that the x pay out for his attorney out of the joint account too. (Assuming there is that kind of money in the joint account, of course.) Good luck, this is tough stuff.

Me: 58, SAHM
Him: 58, LTA 2.5 years
Married 9 years, together 15
Dday: June 11 2013
DD 9 years

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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Retainers in my area are 3500-5000 so your 3000 is probably about right.

There was a thread here a while ago with the poster asking how do we all afford/pay for attorneys. There were a lot of different answers ~ maybe you could look for that thread.

Dmari, I was going to post this ^^^^^ exact question! So if anyone finds it bump it! My consults with lawyers said I need a PI before filing.....$2000 retainer, cha-ching; and after filing forensic CPA, cha-ching, and his business valued, cha-ching!

Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
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