You are still working on it.
You're looking at your thoughts, feelings, and actions and examining them. This is really good stuff.
You know what? A couple weeks from now when things have quieted down since the funeral your neighbor is going to be incredibly lonely. People will be back to normal and her life will never be "normal" again.
What's stopping you from popping over to say hi and asking her how she's doing? I bet it would be good for you too.