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User Topic: Merry Christmas MH and DS!!!
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We all owe you a debt that could never be payed. As I sit here in the chaos of a home full of family I realize how far we have come. I wouldn't be here or sane today without this place. Peace be with all on SI! And especially MH and DS.


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1912 | Registered: Nov 2010
Going_Under
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Amen to that. Have a wonderful and blessed Christmas, MH, DS & all who make SI such a safe and wonderful home.


BS 42 (Me)
FWH 45
M 23 years
Three Children ages 20, 17, and 8
D-Day 08/10/2004, 7-Year LTA that ended 4 months before D-Day.

Evil never thinks it's evil, it always has a really good reason. ~ Joan of Arcadia, TV Series


Posts: 4558 | Registered: Aug 2006 | From: Pacific Northwest
annb
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Cool  Posted: 1:50 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We all owe you a debt that could never be payed

Amen.


Posts: 7603 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Merry Christmas DS and MH. Our lives will never be the same because of the love and sacrifice you have given here. Bless you both.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6322 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
JustDone
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And Thank You!

-JD


Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.


Posts: 2796 | Registered: Feb 2006
Gotmegood
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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish that I had thought to start this thread.
I can remember quite vividly the horrible, horrible beginning days when first learning that I was, unbelievably to me!, a BS. I somehow stumbled upon this site. I could not even sign on, my hands were shaking so hard.
But I did log in, and here I found the compassion and expertise I needed to put one foot in front of the other. What you have given back out of your own pain is so appreciated. By me, and all of us. Thank you so much for such a gift!


Me: faithful wife 62.
Him: WH 64 , prostitute 20 yr old
DDay: 8-13-2013
Status: boinging up and down like a yo-yo

Posts: 499 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Florida
Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Truth LHAP!

Best wishes for a wonderful and blessed holiday season (((MH & DS)))! And to everyone here at SI!


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

Posts: 9770 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: Texas
Skan
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I truly do thank God that I found this place. And, while I don't wish being here on anyone, I also thank God for all of you here with me.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4962 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8112 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((MH & DS)))

Thanks.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10430 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I need to add my thanks, too. I have lots of IRL friends (some from SI) and family, but my huge SI family is always there for me, ready to listen and help like none other.

Thank you, DS and MH for that.

Merry Christmas and God Bless Us, EVERY ONE!!


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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Eudaimonia
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

MH & DS,

You guys have helped us all as individuals in unquantifiable amounts. If it were not for this site I would be in an awful place still, no doubt.
I could list a million different ways that you have helped me personally. But, the most important way that you've helped me is that in the most horrible, alienating, hopeless time of my life (that will probably span to some extent till the day I die) you have shown me that I am not alone. You have created a place for all of us to find each other and work through this together.

The two of you have truly made the world a better place. Thank you and Happy Holidays.


So long, and thanks for all the fish!

Posts: 472 | Registered: Jun 2011
jjsr
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am very grateful to have found this site. I have come to learn that when infidelity happens, a lot of people who you thought were your friends, judge you, leave your life etc. I am thankful we don't judge here.


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1649 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
timeforchange
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

4 years ago Today I spent the worst Christmas of my life. 2 weeks later D Day came Along and a couple of days later I stumbled across SI.

Before confronting I came here and read and read. I sought advice and learnt from the old hands how to get my ducks in a row. Thanks to them I "aced" the confrontation and he left that night. THANK YOU

As the divorce dragged on I received support and advice (better than any my lawyer ever gave) on negotiating a great final agreement. THANK YOU

Along the way I have learnt so very much about relationships.
I dated too soon and regretted not listening to folk here. THANK YOU

And I remember clearly reading many of The wise words and advice. These helped me work out for the first time in my life what a healthy relationship should be like and that settling for anything less was a major mistake. Today I have been dating the kindest, most thoughtful, most respectful man for nearly a year and I love him very much. SI helped me to learn how to accept the love of a good man and how to look for red flags. THANK YOU

My mum died when I was a teenager and in many ways the advice of old timers here was like a mother's advice to her daughter. I will be forever grateful to SI and all those who works hard to make it this wonderful place.

Every week I talk to my 2 young sons about life and relationships explaining to them the things I have learnt here. Lessons I learnt the hard way. I want them to be emotionally intelligent. By passing on what I have learned over the last 4 years ... The ripple effect of SI will carry on impacting people and relationship for decades to come. THANK YOU

This site and it's impact on lives is priceless....THANK YOU

I wish you both a joyful and peaceful Christmas.


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


Posts: 726 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TO MH and DS, Merrry, Merry Christmas!!
And wishes for a fabulous 2014!


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 627 | Registered: May 2011
SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Merry Christmas! Many thanks for this safe haven and your wise words.
May your New Year be full of blessings.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto ^^^^^^^everything above.

This place has been a lifesaver for me.

I am happy to tell you that thanks to you, WH is finally "getting it" & our R is going well. I think that thanks to you, a family is staying together, & healing.


together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

Posts: 1402 | Registered: Dec 2012
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love you guys! thank you for everything you do for us.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17589 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love you so much I had to say it twice...

[This message edited by FaithFool at 10:26 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)]


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17589 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
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