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User Topic: I need hugs. I am in such grief
Edie
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks again Jo. He was a much-loved person with so many friends, there will be a huge number of phone calls we will have to do to inform people of the news tomorrow. We kept it completely to ourselves today, so as not to bring down friends and other family Christmas Day glow. And so it has been good to have been able to come here to SI and to feel the warmth and support.


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5059 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
caregiver9000
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Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Edie)))))

many many hugs. My deepest sympathies.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5776 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((HUGS))))

I'm so sorry.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9538 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Tred
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Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Edie)))

My heartfelt sympathies.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3868 | Registered: Dec 2011
GotPlayed
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Member # 41294
Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Edie)))))

Condolences. Praying for you and your family in your time of loss.

Stay close to your support system. If you have a religion, even if you don't practice it regularly, now it's the time to get in touch with it. It will provide a lot of healing.

Either way, get close to your family, emphasize the good times you had together, which in your case I'm sure there's more than in almost all cases.

The most wonderful way to acknowledge his bravery is to celebrate his life as much as doing the mourning.

As Thriving says, if you want to talk about him, we're here to listen.


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

Posts: 688 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, Edie. My thoughts and prayers are with you.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7804 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Edie))))

I can only imagine how hard this is for you. I wish I had the perfect words of comfort.


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

Posts: 11134 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Just a fool in limbo
NotFixable
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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Edie))) I'm so very sorry for your loss.


Me-BS
Him-WH
Married 13 years
DD #1 03/12
DD #2 11/20/13
Status: Separated and planning D
___________________________________

Nowhere left to go but up!


Posts: 108 | Registered: Dec 2013
deeplysad
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Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Losing a sibling is so painful; I can't even imagine losing your twin.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

(((((Edie and Family)))))


Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert


Posts: 3229 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
okaynow
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Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Edie))) I am so sorry for your loss.


Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.

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movingforward777
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Default  Posted: 11:16 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Edie)) You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers....May God grant you peace.....HUGS


You can't reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday's junk.......Louise Smith

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Edie
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Default  Posted: 2:44 AM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all. Your words are really helping. Really.


(DBB, a delight to see you).


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5059 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
Rainbows
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Default  Posted: 2:54 AM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Edie)))))

Keeping you in my prayers and sending you light.


There is always a rainbow after every storm.

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 3:32 AM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Edie)))


It is better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie. -Russian Proverb

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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 3:57 AM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh ((((Edie)))), I am so sorry for your loss.


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2557 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
windows
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Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Edie)))

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hurting2much
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Default  Posted: 6:56 AM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Edie and family)). So very sorry!


Divorced

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GraceisGood
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Edie))))))


We have a tendency to think the love offered us is a reflection of our worth and value.But in actuality,it's a reflection of the person that is giving it.We love out of who WE are-not because of who the receiver is.At least in terms of real love.TSMF

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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss, Edie. This
Losing a sibling is so painful; I can't even imagine losing your twin.
is so true! Words fall short of expressing my sorrow for your loss of your dear brother. ((((Edie))))


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9544 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Kelany
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Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss. (((HUGS)))


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


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