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User Topic: Merry Christmas from Stretch
cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 7:29 AM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So happy for you!

It is an inspiration to read the peace in your words.

I gives hope for the future.

thank you


Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

divorcing


Posts: 1253 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Merry Christmas, CG. I love the picture of you in your jammies sending happy, composed, cheerful children out to a miserly old grinch who hasn't a clue in the world what to do with such happiness (on the children's part) and indifference (on your part).

Warms my heart.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4554 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
MakingLemonade
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Member # 41143
Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Triggered yesterday and anxiety today, neither of which I have had since August. I think your post just pulled me out of it! Thanks for posting and reminding me, we chose the most precious things in life!


Me: 40's; XBS Him: 40's; XWS/NPD/SA
D-day 1: 5/2007- A #1; 7/2007 A #1 continued-R
D-day 2: 3/2013 A #2/multi-ONSs; 4/2013 A #2 continues to present
D: 7/2013 (25 yrs together; days shy of 22nd anniversary-GOAL MET!)
Our kids: teen & tween

Posts: 168 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Southern US
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love the picture of you in your jammies sending happy, composed, cheerful children out to a miserly old grinch who hasn't a clue in the world what to do with such happiness (on the children's part) and indifference (on your part).

This was what I imagined too!! He seemed so bewildered, like HOW do they have Christmas? I didn't send CS, I wasn't there, and yet, and yet, Christmas came anyway? They got gifts, mom is not sad? HOW how can that be??

Poor little confused grinch. Too bad Stretch doesn't have a heart to grow.

(((ML))) I hope your triggers and anxiety are fully past. Drown them in eggnog?


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5612 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd like to be you when I grow up.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9310 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
caregiver9000
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Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know what NG? You will be. There is no doubt in my mind.

I read here about the fucked up exes who are trying so actively to destroy their BS's. And I see the lost, scared, angry, indignant, bewildered NORMAL fucking reactions to such cruel and unexplainable "evil." And I remember. I know what that feels like.

And then I hear the (oh, God, I am not crazy okay?) voices in my head that are the people who posted to ME saying things like

You can't make sense out of nonsense- when I would wonder WHY does he do this and that.

And

You can't control him, only one you control is you. (ugh, bit of a control freak here, and how I wish I could control everything... mumble, mumble the world would run better too...)

And

There is no co-parenting with an idiot. He will take your "helpful" suggestions and beat you up with it. Save the energy for reparenting the children when they come home.

TIME. It only took time and reading and listening to those who knew already what I was learning.

(((hugs))) and thanks for the compliments. I feel like I earned every step and I KNOW all of you will too. Because you are here and you are my "kin" and you see what CAN BE. Just keep walking. or swimming. or crawling on some days.

Thanks. a lot.


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5612 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, December 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping cause it's inspirational


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

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