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herongirl
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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with bionicgal, perceptions are everything. Sometimes, one partner's grand gesture falls flat, despite the good intentions behind it. It's definitely a good chance for communication though.
In our case, I discovered my husband's cheating 6 months into our marriage, before we even had rings. He immediately took me ring shopping, to show me that now he was in fact committed. I had a lot of mixed feelings about it (gave it back several times in the 1st few months) but chose to wear it because I saw it meant a lot to him & it represented to me that I had kept our vows.
I personally have come to like the idea of a new ring as a symbol of re-commitment, but understand it is different for everyone.
If nothing else, hopefully this can lead to more communication & better understanding each other's feelings.
It could be manipulative or simplistic on his part or it could be a genuine (but misguided) expression of his good intentions. Hopefully, you can talk it out & come to a compromise you both feel comfortable with.


Me- BS
D-day 1/21/13
Trying to reconcile

I can't make you happy, unless I am (Ziggy Marley-True to Myself)


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dana1234
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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank u friends❤️lots of good points.... But truly what does a wedding symbolize after an A?? I promise this time in mean it??


Me40 BS
Him 43 WH
Married 16 years, together 24 high school sweethearts
3 Beautiful Children 12,8,8

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