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User Topic: So glad for your support
gardens64
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Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry that we are all in this boat but I am so glad to have the support here. I was really down yesterday evening after putting together great holiday for kids. As I was bawling my eyes out I came here and saw that this is such a hard time of year for so many of us. I hate that we are all here but feel so lucky to have a community that "gets it". I hope that we soldier on to a better year...

Posts: 57 | Registered: Feb 2013
PhoenixRising88
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Member # 35214
Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Amen to that...


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Posts: 426 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
NotFixable
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Member # 41608
Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's nowhere to go but up!


Me-BS
Him-WH
Married 13 years
DD #1 03/12
DD #2 11/20/13
Status: Separated and planning D
___________________________________

Nowhere left to go but up!


Posts: 101 | Registered: Dec 2013
pregnantandsad
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Agreed, sometimes I don't know what I would do without this place.


M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD4 and a newborn
D-Day 7/2013 he didn't want R and moved in with OW
Filing for D

Posts: 155 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
GotPlayed
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Member # 41294
Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Same here. I have gotten incredible advise from wonderful people, from this, the "best club I never wanted to be a part of".

All of you at SI make it bearable. Better support than family even, truly. Nothing like having the thoughts of hundreds of people who've been through it.

My 2014 is going to be much better than 2013..


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

Posts: 683 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
badmedicine
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just an echo for what everyone else is saying. Reading and posting here has kept me from bad decisions I would have made to talk to STBXH. We have to stay strong together, even in our weakness.


"The wishbone will never replace the backbone." -Will Henry
"This wasn't just plain terrible, this was fancy terrible. This was terrible with raisins in it." -Dorothy Parker

Posts: 199 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am absolutely certain I would NOT have survived infidelity if it weren't for this place.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9467 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
HurtsButImOK
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Member # 38865
Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^what NG said

plus: I would never have realised that all the other 'nothings' were infidelity. I just knew how they made me feel and then we both gaslit the fuck out of me .

16 years later, now that I know better I can do better moving forward. Thanks SI and all the wise (unfortunate to be here) peeps .


Me: Awesome - 35

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be". –


Posts: 722 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hopping on this bandwagon! I spent the greater part of Christmas Eve and Christmas night reading through the threads .. and commenting on some, and just realizing that this really is a great community. Poor unfortunate souls .. (Disney song running through my head) ... we will persevere, we will survive ... we trusted the untrustworthy, we loved the unworthy and now we need to trust and love ourselves.

2014 the year to rebuild and retrench ...


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
persevere
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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm almost three years in from a very unexpected Dday, and I cannot imagine surviving without SI and all of you wonderful people.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4442 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
ItHappened2Me2
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just started posting recently but have been a member for a couple of years (wow -- that long????)

I know that I would be a total basket case if it weren't for this site. I have learned so much.

And like BAB61, I've been on a lot over the last couple of days.

Thank you SI peeps for the support and helping me keep my sanity.

[This message edited by ItHappened2Me2 at 10:21 PM, December 26th (Thursday)]


BS - me (52); WS - him (52)
DD 15yo, DS 11 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013 - he started up again with the

Posts: 241 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Texas
peridot
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm pretty sure I'd be spending life in prison with no chance of parole for murder if it weren't for SI.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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