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User Topic: Well, well, well...
Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Heard through the grapevine, OW has dumpedWXH! I seriously did not see that one coming. His unexpected visit from overseas appears to be one of him seeking comfort from his family and probably a deathly fear of being alone at Christmas, since he's never been alone in his life, and he has no friends.

Apparently (I heard all of this through WXH's oldest daughter, my former step-daughter, who went for breakfast with him and my young children this morning before he took my kids to his family for 5 days), OW (who is 23) feels they are in "different places in their lives". It's a good thing I've done a lot of healing because I am CRACKING UP at the irony. But 4.5 years ago, when she was 18 and he was a 32 year old married man with two little kids and a pregnant wife...well, then they WERE in the same place?!?

Apparently, he's "distraught" and wants to win her back. From the little I've seen and heard, it looks like she's quite enjoying her newly found, slutty single life.

He also asked his oldest daughter (17 years old, who does NOT see her younger siblings very often and wouldn't know what their needs are) if SHE thought he should tell them (my kids, ages 11, 7, 4) that they're broken up. I don't know what she said to him, but WHAT?! Sorry to break it to you, buddy, but these kids don't care a lick about OW. She's not even on their radar. It's not like they're losing someone special...

Not feeling terribly sorry for his poor, wittle distraught ass.


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2509 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love the karma stories. Gives me something to look forward to. Thank you.


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

Posts: 646 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
ItHappened2Me2
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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HA HA HA HA HA

Welcome home Karma!


BS - me (52); WS - him (52)
DD 15yo, DS 11 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013 - he started up again with the

Posts: 241 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Texas
pregnantandsad
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ha! I love it


M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD4 and a newborn
D-Day 7/2013 he didn't want R and moved in with OW
Filing for D

Posts: 155 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

18 & 32? Disgusting. Good for the piece of shit!


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 638 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Couldn't have happened to a more deserving "stand up" guy!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2232 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
peridot
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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love the karma stories, especially at the holidays!


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4775 | Registered: Feb 2008
Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love the karma stories, especially at the holidays!

I know, right?

Merry Christmas to ME!!


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2509 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
NotFixable
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is an awesome Karma Christmas present to you! Love it! I can't wait until I can post one of my own!!!


Me-BS
Him-WH
Married 13 years
DD #1 03/12
DD #2 11/20/13
Status: Separated and planning D
___________________________________

Nowhere left to go but up!


Posts: 108 | Registered: Dec 2013
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hahahahaha!!! I heart Karma!!!

It was a great day when I heard that OW broke up with my ex too!!!


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

Posts: 1575 | Registered: Aug 2010
shiloe
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I bet she found another guy and was cheating on him then dumped him.


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

Posts: 592 | Registered: Mar 2003
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well well well indeed!!

Counting the days with you GS. counting the days.

Good to have a bit of amusement to mark the time.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5816 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Serves him right!

18 & 32? Disgusting
.

I've got an even more disgusting one....mine was 39 and OW was 20! They married and she wasted her 20's on him and has now she has left him for another man!

Don't ya just love Karma when it is delved out like that?


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

Posts: 866 | Registered: Aug 2011
SBB
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But 4.5 years ago, when she was 18 and he was a 32 year old married man with two little kids and a pregnant wife...well, then they WERE in the same place?!?

The sad clown (40) and OWUmpteen (24) were having an affair for probably close to 5 years prior to DD (my oldest daughter was just over 4 on DD). He 'cheated' on her with OWIndianSheMan - took SheMan to meet Umpteens sister for drinks in London. I wondered why he felt so comfortable taking an OW to meet someone who knew me but then I realised the sister knew of their affair so wouldn't be shocked by this new OW. Just.So.Fucked.Up.

He will be gutted when she realises what a loser he is. Unfortunately she will probably set another M alight once she sucks this idiot dry.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5556 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
finallymefirst
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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just read ur profile and ur ex sounds similar to my ex. Very passive aggressive..... I hope she tore his heart out and was as cold to him as he was to u. Karma... serves him right!!

Posts: 120 | Registered: Oct 2013
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Merry Christmas asshole! FTG!


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 894 | Registered: Mar 2013
persevere
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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like he did indeed get all the happiness he deserved...lol.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4516 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 1:06 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like he did indeed get all the happiness he deserved...lol.

Oh goodness, YES!

To get somewhat serious, when he first left, everyone told me, "it won't last" and all that, which was little comfort, really, since he clearly didn't want ME. But it did last. For quite a long time, in my opinion, seeing as she was a teenager right out of high school.

And it stopped mattering. I worked on healing and building a life with my kids, and luckily for me, they live overseas, so they weren't in my face all the time. I honestly didn't care if they were together or not.

So, today isn't something I was even waiting for. It really just feels like a glorious little gift. I am so amused by it.


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2509 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I so remember my well, well, well day. XWH#1 was 45 and seeing an 18year old "friend". When he refused to give up his "friend", I said OK and filed for D. A couple of months later she was gone and he was alone wanting to come back home. Not a chance in hell was I living through another minute with his sad ass. It has been almost 12yrs and he is still alone, although he has occasional slutty GF's until they get tired of him or he gets tired of them. I no longer care and am happy whenever I think of him spending his old age alone. I often think what kind of person thinks that they can keep a young girl happy unless they are loaded with money. How delusional and stupid are they really??


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
LoveHerStill
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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She probably didn't want to play the "spank me daddy" game anymore!


Me BH-45
Her WW-44
Married-20yrs
Together-26yrs
D-Day 4/11/10
Divorced 9/13/2010
XWW Married OM 5/23/2011

There is hope. Once you truly commit to focusing on yourself and letting go, it comes back, and you will appreciate it like never before.


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