husband and I are still having issues- not cheating issues. He has been good in that department so far as I can tell.
Apparently, that doesn't stop some whore ex of his from creeping up and trying to insert herself back into his life. So far (and I have been watching very closely), he has not spoken to her, has shown zero interest, and has not been around her.
First, she successfully found a crowd of friends of his, and started going to the bar they go to regularly. Now his friends are all hanging out with her- going to her birthday party. Then, she tried to make contact with me (via facebook- husband doesn't have one) and play all innocent, "oh heyyyyy, are you the wife? We used to date- I can't believe he finally settled down! You should tell him to come to the bar this weekend- I would love to buy him a drink and catch up!" I said something to him- we're not going (his choice), and he didn't bat an eyelash. Could not have cared less, this far. I wonder how long it will take until this becomes a problem.
Regardless, I see what she is doing. I check his phone. I check his Internet usage, and his e-mail- I trust him, just not the situation. Been there, done that before. He knows, we haven't talked about it directly but he knows how I feel and my concerns.
I really wanted to respond and tell her I knew exactly what she was doing...didn't do it. I don't want to look bad in from of his friends, or start some drama fight. But god, if I could:
There is a reason (beyondbreaking's husband name here) refers to you as an "ex"- BECAUSE HE BROKE UP WITH YOU. There is a reason why he didn't try to keep in touch, remain friends, or get in contact with you- HE ISNT INTERESTED IN YOU.
I know what you're trying to do. Deny away- I can see right through your innocent little act. If your game works- if you are able to steal him away from me- congratulations. Stealing a cheater is walking away with no prize. If it doesn't work- again you lose. How does it feel, having a plan in which no matter what happens, you lose?
Do yourself a favor- back off, walk away, and forget him. He already forgot about you years ago.
At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.
"Love means never having to say you're sorry."
This chick is delusional to think you can't see through this. I'm glad your spouse is steering clear, but you're right to keep an eye on the situation.
I hope she gets the hint soon. Keep giving her crickets, although I wish you could send her your message, too. Crickets are better.
I'd love it if you wrote back "Oh, so you want to catch up and talk about 'old times' with my husband huh? Well, he snores, he is a complete jerk when he first wakes up, his feet smell terrible at the end of a day, his back has much more hair on it, and he's a bit of a homebody these days. So now you're caught up on his life. So that leaves old times. Did you want to discuss the romance you had and think fondly of it, or did you want to talk about the sex you had together, or both? Maybe you'd like to fuck him again, for old times sake? I'll check and see if he's interested."
THAT would be hysterical. Of course, I agree - crickets are best. But the temptation to just crush her has to be overwhelming.