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User Topic: Why would ow unblock me?
scangel3
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Default  Posted: 2:55 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok so A season is right around the corner, 4 years ago, I periodically check (when I'm triggering bad) on OW's fb, I'm blocked and have been for 3 years, but I have another account that I'm not blocked from (a secret account at the time to get info from wh or try to, he knows about the account now although I don't ever use it) but tonight I was searching from my account and I'm no longer blocked? Why would she all of a sudden Un-block me? My account is completely private so she can't see anything except my profile pic. But it's really bugging the hell out of me, especially this close to when the A started.

Is she fishing? Should I be worried about other contact? I just don't get it!


BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 8.5, DS 6, DS 5.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it

Posts: 714 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Portland
BeautifulEmpty
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Default  Posted: 3:06 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have no idea but our last OW did the same thing.
She had her nasty little last word and then blocked me. I had to go back to torture myself with her stupidity and look up her last message after over a year of leaving it alone and...she'd unblocked me.
As far as I know, she hasn't made contact to my H and definitely not to myself so I don't know what the point is.


Me: 42 BS
Him: 38 ws
Ow: 44 head case, no obs
5 DD's: 21, 18, 17, 15, 10
Last D-day: August 2012 with lots of very blurry lines.

Posts: 254 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Washington State
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 3:28 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well maybe she wants to look at your stuff and if she blocks you, she's also blocked from you. Or maybe she has something she wants you to see.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4944 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 3:30 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oops just saw yours is private. Was there something she had on hers, a pic or a show off post.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4944 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
scangel3
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Default  Posted: 4:33 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No hers is private too, only able to see her profile pics


BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 8.5, DS 6, DS 5.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it

Posts: 714 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Portland
Kalliopeia
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Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW did that in my case, too. She had me blocked. Then she unblocked me. Then she wrote to me and told me she really likes cats. I just ignored her. After a few months she wrote and demanded to know why I keep writing to her.

She had just uploaded about 20 pics of other child. I was a sucker and looked. Blew my brain in a nano second. I ignored her then, too, because any response would have validated her meaness.


Posts: 478 | Registered: Mar 2012
scangel3
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Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But why after 3 years? That's the confusing part, I mean I get after a few months, but years? I just don't understand why now?


BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 8.5, DS 6, DS 5.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it

Posts: 714 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Portland
cancuncrushed
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Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

she is not over it.... Imagine that. This would make me more then crazy. I have too many questions still. stepping back into my world would never be ok.


a trigger yesterday

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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 9:11 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you should have her blocked.

And if you hadn't been looking you never would have known...

Stop looking and block her, let her go away....


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3793 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
million tears
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It sounds like she's still obsessing.


2 year LTA-double betrayal, D-day 1-26-2009 and many months of TT. 2 more recent d-days-way overstepped boundaries.

Married 27 years. Together 29.

3 children 24, 21, 14

OW sex addict and romance addict according to MC.


Posts: 1663 | Registered: Jun 2009
Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The IC told my H that AP, particularly predatory ones who were cut off with a sudden NC, will circle back around periodically when they need a new victim to persue. They like to go back to the familiar occasionally to see if they can get in a bite or two before moving on. He said NC is vital to keeping them moving. The least little thing they get will encourage them to stay longer. The IC said it may last a few cycles or last a lifetime. The AP keeps the predatory pattern for their whole lives unless they seek intensive therapy.


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1458 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A while ago, I deactivated my account for a few months. When I reactivated it, all blocked people had to be reblocked.
Not saying this happened to her, as I'm sure it was just a glitch with my FB account. However, maybe she isn't even thinking about you, and it is a glitch.
Or, she is thinking about you, unblocked you temporarily so she could fish for info.
Regardless, in order to heal, NC NC NC.
Block her and do not attempt to look at her. Nothing good can come from that kind of contact.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2214 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That would drive me nuts as well. OW never blocked me but she has her profile set to private.

Then she wrote to me and told me she really likes cats.

This made me laugh. She sounds like a complete nut!


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
womaninflux
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe it's a sign you should move on from her.

Because now it's YOU who has the power to look or not look.

Have you asked yourself why you are looking in the first place?


BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 864 | Registered: Jun 2013
scangel3
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I do ask myself why I look, it's usually after a stream of triggery days and my morbid curiosity to know if she's still with her bs or happy. Although since her profile is private I can't tell any of that. So I don't know whyi keep looking, although I don't look that often, it just happens that this month has been a very triggery one for me and I looked at the beginning and yesterday, I usually don't look that often.

I guess my next question is, has she unblocked wh or made any contact? He claims he hasn't heard from he or seen her in a long time, and my guts not screaming that he's lying so I'll have to see

[This message edited by scangel3 at 2:37 PM, December 27th (Friday)]


BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 8.5, DS 6, DS 5.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it

Posts: 714 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Portland
scangel3
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wh is still blocked from her account,so it wasn't just a flaw in fb where it all got reset. Not sure this makes me feel any better!


BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 8.5, DS 6, DS 5.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it

Posts: 714 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Portland
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