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User Topic: How do you move on from uncertainty?
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

double post

[This message edited by cl131716 at 4:49 PM, December 27th (Friday)]


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
cl131716
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Member # 40699
Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

they need to be thought of as good, kind, upstanding moral people

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Since the goal is to fill the void inside of them with a constant, steady stream of admiration)

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The way they rope you in is both with charm (which they tend to ooze) and that facade of being a good, kind, upstanding, moral person.

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How much do you want to hold out hope that you are that lucky one? What has he done to deserve that hope?

I don't want to hold out. I want to be loved the way I deserve. He has done nothing to deserve that hope except ooze on more charm. I've been such a fool.



Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're not a fool. The main thing I struggled with was calling myself stupid for going along blindly with the lies for so long. But my IC kept telling me that I was t stupid. And you're not a fool. You loved him. You trusted him. That's how a person should be in a relationship. It does not make you a fool. He's the fool for doing all the crappy things.


30 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

Posts: 1205 | Registered: Jul 2013
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