[This message edited by cl131716 at 4:49 PM, December 27th (Friday)]
they need to be thought of as good, kind, upstanding moral people
Since the goal is to fill the void inside of them with a constant, steady stream of admiration)
The way they rope you in is both with charm (which they tend to ooze) and that facade of being a good, kind, upstanding, moral person.
How much do you want to hold out hope that you are that lucky one? What has he done to deserve that hope?