My stepsons have become extremely clingy and demanding of hugs and kisses. They've always been very close to me because I am naturally affectionate. However, the past few weeks, my 11 & 13 yo stepsons have a habit of saying "I love you FC" and if I don't say it back immediately, they'll repeat it until I do. They have also begun to demand hugs and kisses (on the lips) - EVERY FIVE MINUTES. I mean, some days it seems like I can't move through the house without having to say "I love you too" or kiss and hug someone. If I refuse at that moment, they are heartbroken.
FWIW - my own bio 13yo won't kiss me anywhere near the lips - always on the cheek and I'm good with that. These two have always kissed on the lips - even their father. I never found that odd, but lately, I kiss my kids on the lips more than I kiss their father and it's creeping me out.
I feel like something is going on. I feel it deep down in my bones that something is going on at their mother's house and that's why they're being extra clingy. I just can't figure out what it is.
Anyone ever dealt with something like this? My WH agrees its odd, but until we get back to their therapist after the holidays, we have no idea what it is.
[This message edited by FightingChance at 1:40 PM, December 27th (Friday)]
Especially if it's as often as you claim.
I might maybe be able to see it happening when they are leaving my house to go back home or something. But every 5 minutes??? And why are they wanting this to happen???
Ehh... No. Yikes. Something is definitely not right there.
You need to talk to them. You need them to understand that no matter what happens between their father an you, you will always be there for them in whatever capacity you can be. If need be, family counseling just to figure out next steps.