I spoke with his BS once (on D Day) and apologized and let her vent. She began harassing me almost immediately after D-Day, and it's still ongoing, even after all this time. She'll call my cell phone and hang up. She'll drive by my house. She sends texts from fake numbers. She stalks me on social media, impersonates me online and in emails, and posts about me in public forums. I have ignored her, blocked her, ignored and blocked her again. Months will pass with nothing, and then she'll reemerge. I don't know what is going on with their marriage (and frankly, I don't want to know) but I was hoping that, two and a half years later, she would be focusing on her own life. I am at the point where I am considering threatening legal action against her.
Any advice/thoughts would be greatly appreciated, and thanks for listening.
[This message edited by AchillesHealed at 1:28 PM, December 28th (Saturday)]
"A lesson is learned. Life is. Simply. There is no Death. There is no Before. There is no After. All is in Flux. Simply."
My first thought is, don't make it so easy for her to harass you. Lock down and/or delete your social media stuff. Change your phone numbers and email address. Inconvenient? Maybe. But you did inject yourself in her marriage and made her life an inconvenience.
If your husband agrees, have an attorney draft and deliver a cease and desist.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?
It's been just over a month since her last flare-up. A few friends have recommended holding off for now, and sending a letter if she so much as breathes in my direction again. I don't know whether that's the right approach, or if I should just go ahead and send a legal letter now...
My husband knows about her early flare-ups, but doesn't know it's still continuing. I feel like this is my mess, and I'm trying to protect him from it. We deal with the aftermath of the affair in plenty of other ways, and I'd like to deal with this particular issue on my own, if possible.
[This message edited by AchillesHealed at 8:34 PM, December 27th (Friday)]
I suppose that's something to discuss with my husband!
btw, welcome to SI.