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User Topic: okay that was just strange
PhoenixRising88
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DOH!  Posted: 7:21 AM, December 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So every single time a piece of mail shows up for me at STBX's house he contacts me. And I tell him the same thing each time - Set it to the side and i'll make a trip to come get them at some point.

So yesterday I was supposed to go over there after work. But when I got off I was tired and had a headache and driving 30 minutes the opposite direction of where I now reside did not appeal. So I reached out and told him i'd be by on Sunday.

Get a call last night about 7:20. He's bringing it to me.

K whatever dude.

So when he gets here I happen to be outside in the back yard having a cigarette. So my stepdad answers the door. STBX hands him the stuff for me, says 'here you go, take care', turns around and leaves.

Who drives 30 minutes one way on a Friday night just to hand someone a small, non-urgent pile of stuff and just leaves?

That was totally strange. Part of me wanted to call and go WTH? You all right?

Then I remembered that I no longer care! :)

[This message edited by PhoenixRising88 at 7:21 AM, December 28th (Saturday)]


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Posts: 426 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
justjim
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Default  Posted: 7:26 AM, December 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He expected you to be alone. Your stepdad's presence foiled his plans to yank your chain a little.

YOU WIN!


Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.

Posts: 294 | Registered: Oct 2013
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, December 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^^agree

Score one for Phoenix Rising


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 491 | Registered: Nov 2013
PhoenixRising88
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, December 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sigh.

He is blowing up my phone this morning. Crying. Asking me to come back. Breaks my heart a little. But we are where we are due to his actions. i didnt ask to be stabbed in the back, he did that voluntarily. I'm not going back.


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Posts: 426 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, December 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is blowing up my phone this morning. Crying. Asking me to come back.
Ah, so the true reason behind his trip comes out.

Fuck that guy. What's wrong? His latest hole dump him? You're nobody's back up plan.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3282 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, December 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^What they said. His hoovering plans were stymied.

They don't seem to take kindly to them having any consequences. Where were his tears when he ripped your heart out? When he set fire to it?

No - he's lonely and afraid of change. Nothing a little hoovering, love bombing, rugsweeping and gas lighting can't fix, right?

Ignore these antics - they will stop as soon as this parasite finds a new host.

Read the hoovering thread over and over.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=480828

Also read your tagline. It is awesome.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5530 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, December 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, just wow. My IC asked me if I would consider R at this point - my response was 'No, HELL no!' I really do think they are just so out of touch with reality... living in a fantasy in their minds...smh...hang tough Phoenix!


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
ItHappened2Me2
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, December 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Then I remembered that I no longer care! :)

Keep this in mind!!! And the two years of trying -- and the fact that the 61 days waiting period is only a month away!

The consequences to his actions are sneaking up on him. That's something he will need to deal with on his own. Just as you've dealt with the consequence his actions have had on you!

(((PhoenixRising88)))


BS - me (52); WS - him (52)
DD 15yo, DS 11 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013 - he started up again with the

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