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painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today is my antiversary. I generally don't think much about it, but it is bothersome that 3 years ago today, until about 10pm, I was happy. I had no clue. Well, that's not true. I knew something was wrong, but I never imagined it was infidelity, and I never knew infidelity was so devastating.

So thanks to everyone here at SI - I've only been here a couple months, but the support here is better than I've had in the last 3 years.

I won't be covering the boards today with my blather because when I'm not in the greatest mood, I tend to get into trouble without realizing it, but I did want to thank you all.

(((((SI))))))


Love leads to tears, tears lead to sadness, sadness to memories, memories to madness

Posts: 1669 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((painfulpast))))


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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Kelany
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Default  Posted: 11:30 AM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Hugs)))


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 11:30 AM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((painfulpast))) I am really glad to have been able to get to "know" you, painfulpast, however, sad about the circumstances.

I can really relate to much about your post, even the getting in trouble part.

Thinking of you and all who are hurting today. Sending you all warm SI mojo and hugs. I am here to say "It will get better!" it really will, dear ones!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9403 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
716dayslost
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Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((painfulpast))))
Sometime we can just be sad, just mourn our past. It is at those times we need the comfort of others than understand us.
Hang in there


You can stand me up at the gates of hell
But I won't back down
In a world that keeps on pushin' me around
But I'll stand my ground and I won't back down

Posts: 1546 | Registered: Aug 2006 | From: New York
TheAgonyOfIt
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Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi PainfulPast

Sorry you are having an especially bad day.

Mourning is tough, anniversaries are tough

Infidelity is devastatingly painful

and things happen in life

people go through things

whether its infidelity or illness or disaster or even war, and well you know the list

so know that while you are in mourning that you are in great company, not only here on SI but all over the world, in every corner, in every town, in every neighborhood

so many are with you in spirit supporting you.

everybody hurts!

sorry you are there now!!

xoxoxoox


Me BS 49,Him: narcissist! Truly. 5yr++ LTA. DDays 4/2013, 2/2014 true Jekyll Hyde. Planning escape from truly narcissistic abuser. Have ridden wicked emotional ride. Now teeter between disgust and abject pity.

Posts: 546 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: theagonyofit
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

PainfulPast...

In your short time here you have really shined

Your participation and willingness to be so open, honest and friendly I know is very much appreciated by the entire community.

Thank you for sharing yourself with all of us...I know it's helped a lot of people

Hang in there, we are all here for you too.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 7:08 AM, December 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all!! You're all so sweet and giving.

We had a good night. No mention of the A at all (my choice) and we just hung out and watched a few episodes of "Shameless" (a show we've just started watching so we have 3 seasons to get through).

All day I kept obsessing on how I was happy 3 years before. At some point in the evening, I realized that I had been happy again in the last 3 years, and more happy than sad lately - with a few exceptions I've posted about but yes, happiness does exist after infidelity. It just takes some time to get there.

Thanks again. Your words and support have brought tears to my eyes. Thank you thank you thank you.

((((SI))))

[This message edited by painfulpast at 7:09 AM, December 30th (Monday)]


Love leads to tears, tears lead to sadness, sadness to memories, memories to madness

Posts: 1669 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
Raven96
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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, December 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad you got through the day. I hope you can do something special for yourself at some point this week. You've EARNED it!!

(((painfulpast)))


Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?

Posts: 379 | Registered: Aug 2013
716dayslost
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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, December 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Painfulpast,
Thank you for sharing your triumph over the anniversary of a sad day. Some of us need examples or strength and rising above. Great news to share.


You can stand me up at the gates of hell
But I won't back down
In a world that keeps on pushin' me around
But I'll stand my ground and I won't back down

Posts: 1546 | Registered: Aug 2006 | From: New York
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