[This message edited by Obim at 7:59 PM, December 29th (Sunday)]
A little advice... You probably won't get a "why" from him. Most of the time there is no why. Try to focus on getting yourself to a place that helps you. Are you in IC?
[This message edited by demonshide at 1:11 PM, February 14th (Friday)]
You're not worth the investment because you might walk. Really? Oh please!
He hasn't followed through on HIS promise to call a MC and set up an appointment. In less than a month he is SO tired that he just wants to end it. He doesn't want to face church. What in the hell has he actually DONE?
Obim, this is a man who is regretful that he was caught and is trying, as hard as he can, to do the absolute minimum to keep you with him. If he put 1/10th of the effort that he is making to NOT do what is necessary into actually healing your marriage and stepping up to his stupidity, then you guys would be a lot further along in your healing. Step back. Quit trying to make him toe the line. Focus on yourself and to hell with him. If he's interested, he needs to step it up. If he's not, well then, you have your answer. (((hugs)))
D-Day, June 10, 2012
He is trying to help a lot with house work and the kids. He is being pretty transparent and doesn't freak if I want to see his phone now. He seems to beat himself up a bit over this at times. That is about it. Not enough to me, and the preacher even told him he is not acting like a man who is desperate to save his marriage.