You rock, now stick with your program. He did this, he needs to deal with ALL the consequences. If you want to talk about it for 10 years, until you make some peace with it, well then he needs to suck it up, take it and work to heal you. End of story. Stay strong.
"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl
He doesn't want to look in the mirror to see himself and what he's done. He wants to put the burden on you so that you can just sweep it all under the rug and suffer in silence.
Yes, you are worth way more than that. Don't let him step over your line in that sand. If he refuses to do the work to heal the pain that he caused, he can go inflict pain on someone else.
Also, date nights are usually aimed at doing something fun together to build new positive memories, so a date is usually a bad time to discuss the A. Can you schedule some other time for your discussions and leave date night for fun and bonding?
Xpos is lousy at talking about things that matter, among his many bad traits. He absolutely refused to go to either. Said it was because the only time we went to MC, "he only wanted to blame ME for everything ". Instead, he took the coward's way out. But it could help you if both go. Can even help if only one goes. I wish I had gone alone many years ago when I first considered it.
(((Heartbrokeninaz))) What sisoon said, too.