Thank heaven for that.
So I am going to hire a lawyer to be my advocate. What happens if she wishes to approach him with terms, and he cannot afford an attorney but we are (likely) not going to court.
Is there a free attorney service for out-of-court issues, or would he be on his own.
I have no idea how this works.
Thanks for any info, and so sorry for those that have fought much larger and much more painful legal battles!!!
There are no free court services for civil matters; only in criminal matters are public defenders provided.
Do NOT talk to him and do NOT share any information with him. Do NOT.
Normally once a property settlement is made (and it looks like that is all that will be determined here), it generally cannot be changed unless there was outright fraud involved.
I would not bother with any of that now. Get your lawyer to advise you and at such time as your STBX makes representation an issue or your lawyer thinks it is a problem, then deal with it.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
His behavior was so odd, because he only hurt himself in the long run. At that time, I did not understand his issues and how severely his thinking was compromised. I wanted to use mediation to work things out, because I did not realize the extent of his emotional problems. The first attempts at mediation showed his ugly side. And made me see how important is was that I had legal protection from his selfish/bully and irrational tactics.
Then him representing himself showed how manipulative he is, and his grandiose ideas that he could also control the courts and my lawyer.
In the end the settlement worked out in my children's benefit. However, he does not see it that way, of course. He views it that I am stealing his money.
He recently filed a motion for modification of CS, SS, and modification of parenting time. He is using a lawyer this time, and the motion states he needed an expedited hearing (skip the state required mediation for disputes) due to his dire financial state plus he wants me to pay him back child support and give him $25,000 for money he says I owe him. We have been divorced for 5.5 years and I his claims are certainly creative and show the distortions in his thinking.
Ummm, he makes $94,000 and my 18 year old daughter will be emancipated in 4 months.