DD is still with me. She came to the office with me. She wants to stay the whole week with me - she finds it more peaceful.
Tonight it's all about putting furniture together. Tomorrow I get my son, and I'll spend new years together with both my wonderful little people.
Lots of stuff happening at work too, but I'm juggling it.
Things were tense when I went to pick up some furniture at the house. She just kept staring, I don't think she was expecting. She helped put together a couple of things (sheets so DD could have sheets on her bed, stuff like that), I politely but firmly mostly ensured she kept out of it.
When I moved out yesterday I saw the "Sorry Ladies, I'm taken" shirt I ripped (I ripped that shirt without WS knowing and kept it around ripped after I figured out she had acted proud and - now I see it as smug, superior and cynical - when I wore it last, since at the time she was already deep in with OM without me knowing it). I just left it there, bunched up in a corner on the ground after I moved the guest room furniture out to use as my master bedroom furniture.
Maybe she found it, maybe not. Don't know.. It would be nice if she had though.
A bit ago I stopped at the house I left to pick up some tools to make assembling the furniture a bit easier. WS wasn't there, my son with the babysitter. MIL said WS has been crying a lot. Haven't really heard a lot from her. No texts other than kid logistics from her, no phone calls. Kind of welcoming the silence actually.
Today I need to get groceries now that I have a full fridge, and also a wireless router since they're putting internet tomorrow morning (they moved my date - grrr). At least there's going to be hot water. I'm in desperate need of a shower and shave!
Enjoy your new place with your kiddos!
DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs
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Sucks to be her. You keep moving forward, and stay as positive as you can. So glad your littles will be with you!
Sometime soon your give-a-fuck will be broken and you won't care what she thinks or does. Until then fake it till you make it. NC is evicting her from your mind as much as you can. I used to use the mental image of a stop sign to ease the obsessive thinking. You're building new habits - it will take time and practice but you'll get there.
I loved getting my new home together. This post has brought back that time for me. I was still hurting and as scared as hell but I was also giddy with delight and excited, so excited. It felt good to be in charge of my own personal space. In a way I was reclaiming me.
So glad you ripped that shirt!! I took down a pic off the wall and ripped it in half ... shredded him and put that 1/2 in the recycle ... put myself back up in the frame and re-hung it on the wall.
Have a Happy New Year's Eve with the kiddos!!
I got groceries, made dinner, cleaned up for tomorrow and assembled a dining set and the two kids beds. 6 hours building furniture (it's 2am) but this place is ready to receive my kids tomorrow.
WS is dropping him off. I hope she doesn't criticize the place. It's certainly not perfect, but I think it's damn good for 2 days old.
Anyway, thanks again! I'll go to sleep so I'm functional tomorrow. :)
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
She parked out front, I went out to receive them. Kids went in, she gave me their things, said "can I come in" then immediately said "it's ok, don't worry about it". I didn't say anything. Maybe I made a face? Don't know.
Anyway, got my little ones, sore and tired from building furniture but at least I have my kids with me, and peace.
Have a wonderful NYE!!!!!
I wish I could handle my WS as well as you are.
at least I have my kids with me, and peace