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User Topic: Wedding etiquette...no no
Patsfan09
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, December 31st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a bit pissed at a former coworker, still works at same place as I, but in a different dept. we used to work together ALOT. She sent a save the date card for her wedding, which is tonight, NYE. Plan was for myself and another coworker to attend together as each of our SO ( my WH and her BF don't get along at all...OW was engaged to friends BF during A, which is why they broke up).

So because our work schedule comes out months in advance and being a holiday, I had arranged to be off NYE, had used vacation time. Also had explained to WH that I would be away that night and had arranged for him to bring a friend to sporting event that we have season tix to that was occurring the same night. Also had arranged child care for that evening as we would both be out.

Well, never got an invite to the wedding!!! My friend got one, addressed to her and her BF. So now, I used vacation time to be off, had to cancel sitters and will be spending the evening home with my kids while my WH goes to game with his friend ( I would have gone with him, but his friend was so excited to go when I invited him).

Pissed because I had given this girl 2 tix to another game that were donated to a breast cancer fundraiser for another friend of hers, just 2 months ago. So it's not like we didn't see each other.

Wouldn't have bothered me but this is a holiday night and I had to make arrangements well in advance.
Thanks for the vent


WH-43
BW-44
T-18y M-15y
2 children (dd-13, ds-12)
1 EA/PA 5/2009-10/2012 (with multiple ddays)
Final dday 4/10/14
*went from EA to PA while we were in MC for over a year.

Divorcing his broken @ss


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ItHappened2Me2
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, December 31st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG!!! How RUDE of her!!!

That is just WRONG -- I would be more than pissed if I were you.

I'm so sorry she did this.

I'm speechless.


BS - me (52); WS - him (52)
DD 15yo, DS 11 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013 - he started up again with the

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heartbroken0903
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, December 31st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Huge faux pas. What a rude bride. Sorry your NYE plans got derailed!


Me: WS, 30s
XH: BS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

Reconciled after divorce

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And all this pain is gonna be invisible." - Hunter Hayes, "Invisible"


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, December 31st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

if you received a save the date card, I would ask if your invite got lost in the mail... do you know that it didn't get lost

[This message edited by Gottagetthrough at 3:59 PM, December 31st (Tuesday)]


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Patsfan09
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, December 31st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I figured I wasn't getting an invite when my other coworker got one addressed to her and her bf, when it had been previously agreed that we would both go stag. So I get to spend NYE with my kids. Saved me $$ in the long run, no hotel, no gift, didn't have to buy a dress so I'm coming out ahead


WH-43
BW-44
T-18y M-15y
2 children (dd-13, ds-12)
1 EA/PA 5/2009-10/2012 (with multiple ddays)
Final dday 4/10/14
*went from EA to PA while we were in MC for over a year.

Divorcing his broken @ss


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hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, December 31st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did you check with coworker about invite? If you send save the date card, then it's safe to assume that you will get an invite.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, December 31st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe your invite got lost in the mail?

Maybe she's an unbelievably rude bridezilla....

I say make the best of it with your kids... relax and enjoy the night.

You'll be home and away from the crazies this way.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, December 31st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm with the others that it might be lost. Only because I can't imagine someone being rude enough to send you a save the date card, for a holiday night no less, and then not sending an invitation. I mean it's so rude it's bizarre.



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