Topic: 16 years ago today...
Member # 40166
| Posted: 10:48 AM, January 2nd (Thursday), 2014|
My husband's twin sister died in an avalanche. It was and still is heart breaking. They were best friends. They were only 23 years old. He and I were traveling separately (not married, taking a break from dating) but I rushed home to be with him.
This is the first year that he has let himself feel. All those years I thought I was helping him by allowing him the space to either express or repress his feelings. I thought I was doing the best thing for him by respecting his grief and never pushing him. I don't blame myself but I do wish I had known that helping him talk about his sadness and loss would have been more healing.
Anyway, here we are at this sad day. My poor H has to work, the snow is falling and so are our tears. Thankfully he has an IC appt booked.
I have no "question", I just needed to share.
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.
Posts: 890 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
Member # 38499
| Posted: 10:57 AM, January 2nd (Thursday), 2014|
My prayers are with you and your family
(((Morhurt & Mr. Morhurt)))
BW - Me (33)
FWH - Him (34)
Married - 8years
D-Day - 06/06/12
Status - Trying...things are good :)
Posts: 77 | Registered: Feb 2013
Member # 33549
| Posted: 3:35 PM, January 2nd (Thursday), 2014|
I am so sorry.
M 31 yrs.
Dday 3-19-11, TT 10/2011, Full truth July 2013
Strength comes from within. You can't get it from someone or go somewhere to get it. It is already here, waiting to be used when you need it most. Believe in yourself.
Posts: 598 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 31528
| Posted: 3:40 PM, January 2nd (Thursday), 2014|
(((Morhurt & H)))
Posts: 33995 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 25238
| Posted: 3:42 PM, January 2nd (Thursday), 2014|
My prayers are extended to you and your H.
I, too, am a twin, and I can empathize so much.
Best wishes for healing from this devastating loss.
Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)
Posts: 2839 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: Where a river runs through it
Member # 38716
| Posted: 6:01 PM, January 2nd (Thursday), 2014|
How awful, what a terrible way to lose someone. :( I'm so sorry for you both. Hopefully the IC will be helpful.
BW, 31, two young kids
One day at a time....
Posts: 56 | Registered: Mar 2013
Member # 22870
| Posted: 6:05 PM, January 2nd (Thursday), 2014|
I'm sorry. That is awful.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 7440 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
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