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User Topic: contacting your old exs ?
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Would you want your husband's ex to send him such a letter?
No, I thought not.
There's your answer.

BW, 31, two young kids

One day at a time....

Posts: 58 | Registered: Mar 2013
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What Slide095 said. Exactly that. Don't do anything that you wouldn't want done to you.

Me - BS 50
Him - WS 49
SOW - 52 destitute loser
D-day 1/28/11

Posts: 580 | Registered: Jul 2011
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

well actually multiple exs did contact my husband over the course of my marriage and for the most part I never even questioned it at all. Most of the time he told me--a few I found out after I started searching old emails and uncovered stuff. There were a few just ohh hi haven't talked to you in forever emails.

The ex-girlfriend he did have an affair with was different since she intended to break up both her marriage and his and make him love her. She wanted to start a sexual relationship on purpose and she admits this. she wanted an affair.

Of course this guy would know who it is from since in the email I would say who I was--just not last name. Anonymous email means that I don't want an address included since I don't want an email back. You can send just one email from a random anonymous email server--uncovered that through husband's affair and searches-- the ip address is hidden. You can't search me unless he would pay one of those companies for information...He could do that, sure, just assuming he wouldn't. If he did I wouldn't return the email/phone call etc.

but like I said, I won't do it.

If my husband did find out I would just say--so ??? you have contacted and or had contact with numerous exs and even had an affair with one and you say that I can't do the same? he wouldn't even have an argument. He wouldn't say a word. rightfully so. He might feel bad but too bad. One email is no payback for years of deceit and a blatant affair.

but I won't do it anyway so this is theoretical now.

Posts: 264 | Registered: Jul 2013
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Your former boyfriend's WIFE does not deserve to have you contacting HER HUSBAND and messing in their life. STAY AWAY FROM HIM!!

Me BS 59
WH 58
Married 19 years
D-Day Nov 3, 2005
Child: Adopted Daughter 21 College Student now

I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.

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