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User Topic: Another angel baby
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Aubrie & sister)))


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10167 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
jrc1963
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Member # 26531
Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers being sent...

I went thru nine years of infertility before conceiving and carrying my precious, wonderful son.

I never suffered a loss... but the endless trying and injections and drs and everything felt almost impossible at times.

Finally, God gave me my wonderful son when I least expected it.

Holding you and your dear sister in prayer.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24547 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please see that your sister gets tested for autoimmune diseases. Most miscarriages are the result of chromosomal abnormalities but so many in a row is usually indicative of other things.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2214 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She's still holding on to hope. Can't say I blame her. I would too. To her, it's not final till it's final.

When she's ready, we'll talk about the possibility of autoimmune and testing.

Thank you again everyone.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6257 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holding on to hope for her, too. So many people don't discuss, acknowledge, or get to grieve such losses. So sad.

Like you, I got pregnant so easily, (even on BC) and had a problem-free time, for the most part. I almost feel guilty talking to people who haven't had that experience.

((((Hugs))))


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2337 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess I should have been clearer. She's holding onto hope that this baby isn't lost yet.

She went to the ER last night cause she was having crazy bad abdominal pains. They did blood tests and ultrasounds. Her HCG was 0 but there was alot of "something" in her uterus. The doctor wasn't sure what it was. He said she was either fixing to have a period from hell or miscarry. Given her history, he was leaning towards miscarriage. That's what he put on the official paperwork. "Missed miscarriage".


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6257 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Aubrie & Family)))


Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/33 The kidlets: DS13, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
Finally, completely R'd
Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25

Posts: 11563 | Registered: Dec 2009
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did she think she might be pregnant or already know? The reason I ask is that it can take weeks for the BHCG to go back to normal (Zero) so that would generally indicate either she was never pregnant this time or had a missed miscarriage several weeks ago.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2214 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Aubrie)))

I have no experience with this, yet I am crying. It is your pain reading through the words for your sister. The ability to hurt FOR others is a beautiful thing.

Whispered prayers for all tonight.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5842 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did she think she might be pregnant or already know?
While she didn't get a positive test, literally every symptom was there. Missed period, extremely sore breasts, breast enlargement, frequent urination, cravings, mood swings, hot flashes, the list goes on. We've suspected it for about two months. For some reason, OTC pregnancy tests don't work on her. The only times she's gotten a "Yep, you'r pregnant" is when she went in for bloodwork. Sadly, with the ones she's lost, the levels were crazy low, or non-existent.

We had her scheduled for a doctors appointment but with the holidays, we couldn't get anything till next week. Now, it seems she'll be going in for different reasons.

It is your pain reading through the words for your sister. The ability to hurt FOR others is a beautiful thing.
I've experienced what she's going thru once myself. It was agony. The thought of her going thru it four times shreds my soul. Nobody should have to deal with that once, let alone four times.

[This message edited by Aubrie at 8:05 PM, January 3rd (Friday)]


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


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Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm soo sooo sorry! Prayers sent

Posts: 2486 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: With my dad...and my dog...
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Aubrie))) Prayers for your sister, her babe, and all who love them.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8729 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
JustDone
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry.

Sending this out to your sister:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2uC_ODp-Dc

Fly

Fly, fly little wing
Fly beyond imagining
The softest cloud, the whitest dove
Upon the wind of heaven's love
Past the planets and the stars
Leave this lonely world of ours
Escape the sorrow and the pain
And fly again

Fly, fly precious one
Your endless journey has begun
Take your gentle happiness
Far too beautiful for this
Cross over to the other shore
There is peace forevermore
But hold this mem'ry bittersweet
Until we meet

Fly, fly do not fear
Don't waste a breath, don't shed a tear
Your heart is pure, your soul is free
Be on your way, don't wait for me
Above the universe you'll climb
On beyond the hands of time
The moon will rise, the sun will set
But I won't forget

Fly, fly little wing
Fly where only angels sing
Fly away, the time is right
Go now, find the light


Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.


Posts: 2791 | Registered: Feb 2006
JustDone
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

double post

(((hugs)))

[This message edited by JustDone at 9:44 PM, January 3rd (Friday)]


Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.


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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sending positive thoughts for your sister, Aubrie! The moment you feel you're possibly pregnant, in your mind you're pushing that baby carriage down the street. It hurts like hell to have that taken away. I'm really sorry; I hope better times lie ahead for her. I'm glad she's got a big sis she can lean on. (((Aubrie's sis & Aubrie)))


You can't fill a cup with no bottom.

Posts: 3880 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: a new start together
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh no - I am so sorry. :(


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6776 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
peridot
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Default  Posted: 12:21 AM, January 4th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4782 | Registered: Feb 2008
sudra
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, January 4th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry. How heartbreaking for you all.


Me (BW) (55), Him(SAWH) (58)
Married 22 years, 1 son (19), 1 stepdaughter (27)
DDay #1 January 2004
DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)
Working on R

Posts: 1479 | Registered: Nov 2010
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Keeping your sis, baby and you in my prayers.

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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