[This message edited by kmom2662 at 2:15 PM, January 4th (Saturday)]
The stage you're at is such a nightmare. I get a stomach ache just thinking about it.
So, you're right. Your BH doesn't know your intentions and has no way of knowing except for the blinding and devastating pain you've caused him---that's what he's going on. Which means all you can do is be completely authentic and honest from now on, no exceptions. You don't get to choose what to tell and what not to. You have to let go of the outcome and be real, consistently.
If there is anything else, now is the time to get it all out.
I am sending you strength and hugs.
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."
[This message edited by kmom2662 at 2:42 PM, January 4th (Saturday)]
No more secrets, even about little things, not anymore.
It is horrible but you will get through it. Just try to be patient and kind to him, talk to him honestly, and dig your feet in.
[This message edited by SI Staff at 4:01 PM, January 4th (Saturday)]
Follow his lead when he gets home. Let him be alone if he wants to. Let him rant or sulk. If he wants to talk, tell him your motivation, that you're trying to continue the openness and transparency. He might not believe you right away, understandably, but you're doing all the right things now.
Sending strength... Xx
It sucks big time for all.
Keep at it, the more effort you put in, the better it gets.
[This message edited by SlowUptake at 6:48 PM, January 4th (Saturday)]
There are two kinds of people in the world.
Those who can extrapolate from incomplete data.
After a terrible, terrible night, things are stable for now, and I think we will be able to keep moving forward in R. And I am glad to (finally) have nothing to hide.
Thanks to all of you for getting both of us through the last 24 hours.
[This message edited by kmom2662 at 3:13 PM, January 5th (Sunday)]