me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
The conditions we face do not define us. They remind us of who we are and who we want to be.
I was married probably less than a tenth of the time you have been. Yet, I am not "in love" with XH; probably haven't been since around 6 months after we started dating. We are also almost 4 years out.
And yet we plan to be remarried this year.
Maybe I am crazy, but I just feel done with "in love." I dunno.
[This message edited by heartbroken0903 at 6:36 PM, January 4th (Saturday)]
Married 2.5 years
Remarried. Reconciliation is a process and I still struggle.
After 32 years of marriage I find contentment, symbiosis, the feeling that somebody on the planet knows me better than I know myself, the joy of having someone who will finish my sentences for me, knowing there is someone who will put their needs second to mine when required, having someone who accepts me for who & what I am despite my shortcomings.
These feelings far outway the fleeting 'butterflies in the stomach, soulmates forever' of 'in love'.
[This message edited by SlowUptake at 1:55 AM, January 6th (Monday)]
"Do not say a little in many words but a great deal in a few." Pythagoras
There are two kinds of people in the world.
Those who can extrapolate from incomplete data.
The yearning for it leads to the 'Dark Side'.
[This message edited by inshockandhurt at 2:39 PM, January 5th (Sunday)]
"Forgiveness means giving up all hope of a better past."